Gave up too soon????

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Registered: 03-28-2006
Gave up too soon????
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Fri, 07-21-2006 - 3:35pm

The situation... had a bf for a yr and a half. I broke up with him Saturday (7/15). We lived together along with roomates. Originally my place so he moved out.

My predicament: I was just unhappy and couldn't figure out where my unhappiness stemed from. Believed it to be a combo of things. That we rushed into this relationship. THere was never really a courtship. There was never intense romance. I feel like maybe we just over did seeing each other in the beginin and since we lived together along with room mates I never had space to myself. Its only been about a week since the break up and we spoke yesterday. We bs'ed for a little bit then he said how he had to stop by today and pick up some stuff (hasn't removed all his things). We said how we missed each other, how we both hope that I made the right decision. Now I am wondering if I did. This guy when I first met him went from a hustler with no education to getting his GED and a job bc that is what I needed from him. Then I told him only 2 weeks ago how I was unhappy and we went on our pre arranged vacation to Florida, which he hoped would change how I felt. Of course it didnt so 4 days after returning I broke up with him. Yesterday he tells me how I didn't give him the chance to romance me since I had just told him what I needed. When we got back from vacation needless to say we were both broke so didnt do much those four days. Since he says I didn't give him the chance to romance me and try to rekindle our lost sparks I began to wonder....Did I give up too soon?

Please I need some insight...so confused

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 4:20pm
Look deeply at what your predicment is to have broken up with him. If you were unhappy and unfulfilled since the beginning, but managed to convince yourself otherwise and stayed in the relationship until you felt asfixiated then you did the right thing. Even if your ex now says "you didn't give me a chance" you know that time will not change your feelings. He is who he is and romancing or else won't change it.
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Registered: 03-28-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 4:25pm
Thanks, that is kinda what I was thinking too, but you just need to hear it sometimes. And friends like to be supportive sometimes more than being real.