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Gifts he/she gave you.
| Sat, 03-24-2007 - 6:12pm |
What do you do with them? I would feel terrible throwing things away that someone put alot of thought into, and gave to me. All of the things that my ex has given me only reminds me of how sweet and attentive he was. I never asked him for anything, but he always kept an eye on me while we were walking the mall. He'd watch me looking at dvd's, cd's, smelling perfume, what figurines I liked, and figured things out for himself. One thing I am struggling with a a stuffed cat that resembles my real cat. My cat is one of those animals who wants food, a warm place to sleep, and nothing else. She won't let me hold her or pet her, and runs off when I walk towards her. So, he bought me this stuffed cat and told me, "You can love this one all you want, and she won't run away." I cannot bring myself to throw it away, but it breaks my heart just looking at it. I know I could put it somewhere where I don't have to look at it, but I'd feel bad doing that too. I feel like if I don't throw it in the garbage, I'll never get over him. I know this might sound ridiculous to some, but it's really eating at me.

What I do is pack up the gifts that hurt me to look at, and put them away in a closet until I'm well over the guy. I like to keep mementos from my relationships and eventually, I can look at them with a smile on my face and remember the good times rather than the hurt.
So I know you say you'd feel bad doing that, but you need to do what's best for you and not having it in your sight being a constant reminder will help.
Sheri
Hi there
Its really difficult to distract yourself from an ex when surrounded by mementos, best thing to do is to just hide them away until you are ready to appreciete them for what they meant at the time. I couldnt throw things away either- though it was tempting at first, i know id regret it
Hi,
I was extremely angry at the time and gave everything to the Salvation Army...The way that our breakup went down was so disrespectful and insensitive that I couldn't believe I was dealing with the same person I had spent 4 years with. I just felt I didn't want anything she had given me and it was 99% because of the manipulative, selfserving, uncaring way she broke up with me. If she had just taken a little time to remember how much I cared each and every day for her (and her family) and showed it, maybe she would have given me the benefit of a more decent way to break up. I couldn't handle keeping anything...it had to go. Maybe someday I can forgive, but I'm definately not there yet.
Well, I had one ex send me back a CD I gave him, and that hurt me terribly. I would much rather he have thrown it away, at least that way I wouldn't have known what he did with it. But to rub it in my face like that--oh, I still remember clearly how much that hurt. So, having had it done to me, I would never do that to someone, unless I really wanted to hurt them.
Sheri
I'm sorry you are hurting. I've been going through a breakup myself and I find this board to be really helpful.