Gimme the cold hard truth!!
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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:50pm |
Hello All,
Can someone with experienc please shed a bit of light on this.
Briefly, my girl and I split up a year ago. I worked away a lot and then left my job toi try and resolve the problems. I was devastated and still am, she told me her feelings for me had gone. I took the break up as worse as I could have done, pathetic, clingy, sad etc etc. I left the country to travel and get away and we started to talk a lot on the phone, this was mutual her phoning me and vice versa. It was like us being back together, laughing, joking and talking about old times. I have ALWAYS been clear that I want her back but cant handle the friends only thing and dont want it. Yet she still calls me, so after a couple of months of this I asked her what the situation was and she said she just wanted to be friends. Another kick in the balls. I know she has big comitment issues and has recently got rid of a friend of hers I warned her about (I also believe played a big part in our breakup). I told her on the phone that there are times when I get the impression that she is reconsidering but then pulls away again, she never agreed but she never disagreed either but I believe I know her pretty well after 6 years. I know she has no faith in relationships etc due to her mother and father splitting and doesnt seem to accept that relationships sometimes need work, life isnt a fairy tale. Before I left the country and since she nearly joined me travelling, when after looking like she would changed her mind.
Since we split Ive had a few girlfriends though none have worked, I no longer get upset and cry but full of dissapointment as I love this woman with all my heart and would give anything for another crack at the whip. I know I should just let go and have no contact but it is so hard, especially when we are getting on so well.
Please shed some light on what she is thinking!!! Dont mind, just be straight. Would be great to hear from someone who has been in this situation, especially a lady.

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