Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC
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Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC
| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:43pm |
I've decided against everyone elses advice, that I just cant do it.
| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:43pm |
I've decided against everyone elses advice, that I just cant do it.
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Stay strong daisy2378!!
No, it's far too soon for time to have had much of an effect.
Have you seeked any counseling?
Hi Daisy,
Time definitely does heal, but -- well, you've got to give it time. I'm talking months or even years. It's only been a few weeks for you, right? That's peanuts along the healing continuum. And what some people say about the healing period equalling the length of the relationship is baloney. The healing period depends on how DEEPLY you got involved, how much HOPE you had in the relationship, and how SURPRISED you were by its ending. It took me much longer (and was much more painful) for me to get over that 3-month relationship I described earlier than to get over my first marriage, which lasted 11 years. That's because I had put ALL my emotional eggs in the relationship, which was all bound up with hopes for personal transformation, adventure and redemption. The whole thing happened in a foreign country, where I'd gone to live after leaving both husband and career -- so it HAD to work out. When it didn't, I felt I had nothing to show for having lived 34 years on this earth. It was a scary, disorienting feeling, and it took me a year and a half to return to anything near normal. I don't think it needs to take that long with you -- I just wanted to illustrate that even an extreme case like mine can come to a happy resolution in the end.
It sounds like you could benefit from talking to a counsellor or therapist. I hope you explore this opportunity, and keep posting on this board if that helps. We're all here for you.
Freelance
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