Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC
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Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC
| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:43pm |
I've decided against everyone elses advice, that I just cant do it.
| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:43pm |
I've decided against everyone elses advice, that I just cant do it.
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Well, *you*, that's who it's going to hurt (at least potentially).
i really think my last boyfriend and i were going to make it and we didnt, but we both believe in fate and destiny and since the timing was not right at the time for us, i can say that i still have hope that destiny will bring us back together one day.
You're right, nobody was in the relationship with you. But the relationship we're all in is essentially the same - it's one that failed for some reason. Which means that somewhere along the way, no matter how sincere his words or intentions were when he said them, he broke them when he broke up with you. And you are not unique in this respect. I can ASSURE you that at some point my ex was in love with me. And when he promised to stay with me forever, he meant it at the time. And I'm not an idiot, I thought I understood him best in the world. Yet here I am, a casualty of heartbreak. Whoever he was when he said he loved me was not the same person that broke my heart rather callously. And if you remember nothing else from this speech, remember this - the man you thought you knew isn't the man that broke up with you. You do not know that man that broke up with you but that, for better or for worse, is the man that your ex has become.
But I think everyone is only giving you what they've experienced. And time and time again, people who deem themselves the 'exception' to the rules often fall the hardest. Perhaps you are, perhaps you aren't, neither I nor anyone else can tell the future. I can list at least a dozen people off this board who have tried that route and failed, but it's not my intention to beat down your decision.
Anyways, regardless of whatever we say, the decision is still yours. You can wait, go, send emails, maintain NC, that's all up to you. And we're all still here if it doesn't go as you planned.
All the best,
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
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