Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC

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Giving it until Sunday, then breaking NC
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:43pm

I've decided against everyone elses advice, that I just cant do it.

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 11:21am
Thanks.
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Registered: 06-02-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:07pm

heart pounding so hard that you feel it's going to fly out of your chest.

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:26pm

Yes, I want to get married and have children.

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:03pm

I know what I want to.

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:45pm
Thanks Denise.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 2:22pm
I want you to mark your calendar, or begin a journal of this painful process and life altering experience. When that day come, and believe me, it will, your going to be suprised how you made it through this mess. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise, when you see the light, there won't be any turning back. I feel your pain, because I was there, years ago, so I just want to give you a big hug, and tell you, it's ok, and you will be a different woman because of this. I believe, this process is preparing you for the new journey in life, and the new man. You will be stronger and wiser, that's for sure. Take care and begin your journal, and ask God to help ya. He's remarkable, and he will show you what to do, in due time. Take care..
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 2:30pm
If I dont know what happened, how can I be wiser?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 2:36pm

dear daisy

I understand your hope. when my ex came to my apt a month ago to pick up his things, i told him to keep the scarf i knitted. And then he cried (he doesn't cry), i cried, he said he would like to come back someday, I said me too. But later, he said "we aren't together anymore, I don't want to confuse you anymore". I was so hurt when I heard that too. I finally told him to stop calling, because i didn't want to be confused anymore.

In the back of my mind, I have a little hope, but there's no way I'm going to chase him or keep asking how he feels anymore. I understand that what we had wasn't working and sometimes just loving someone isn't enough.

i know every day seems like a battle right now, and you feel miserable, and you feel like if you did something your relationship would reappear. but take the advice of these girls. no contact, journal, take care of yourself.




Edited 1/8/2008 2:40 pm ET by j3une
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 2:51pm

No, I won't be calling, texting, etc.....what would I possibly say, "hi this is the girl you spent every minute with, ya know the one you threw away like a peice of trash one day for no clear reason, and still she cant seem to get over you or what has happened".

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 3:07pm

Saturday is a long way away....don't decide now if you will go or not b/c you don't know how you will feel on Saturday.

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