Going Crazy

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Registered: 11-02-2004
Going Crazy
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 2:02am
Tonight is the first night where I don't know where he is or what he is doing. How am I going to stop myself from keeping contact with him when I'm just going nuts thinking about what he is doing or who he is with? it's so hard to be without him right now.. I have nothing else to do really but sleep but I cant seem to get to sleep without thinking about him and bawling about missing him so much! So all night I've been up watching movies and eating junk food..it isn't helping one bit! How am I supposed to get my mind off of him?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: xayshax
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:11am

xayshax...


Pianoguy is sorry you had a bad first night.

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Registered: 02-24-2005
In reply to: xayshax
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:15pm
...keep writing, talking, crying and getting it out (but not to him!). the last thing you want is unresolved emotional trauma. if you hold it in, it will resurface later. i'm realizing that is precisely why my ex could not commit seriously to me. he has unresolved emotions from his divorce (she cheated, they divorced. he picked up, moved on and he met me 5 years later), so when he started to fall in love again he became frightened, depressed and unable to give himself over to me. the last thing i'd want is for this to happen to *me* down the road (it will happen to him in his next relationship, no doubt). so, post a hundred messages on the board. keep crying. keep venting. get it all out! we've got your back.. and i'm sure your friends and family do too. then, when you feel better and are ready try to re-evaluate your life, learn from this situation and move on.
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Registered: 10-17-2004
In reply to: xayshax
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:36pm
catalpa8.....the same thing happened to me, but my exboyfriend was in a bad marriage for 14 years. I think she cheated on him the entire time. I'm not clear exactly why he stayed so long but they did have two children. He was 2 years out of the relationship when I met him .....he never put much into it, but I kept thinking it could change. It didn't....he is so confused and messed up. I just pray he gets counseling, but I am trying really hard to get over him.....
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Registered: 02-24-2005
In reply to: xayshax
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 6:12pm
yeah, my situation is very similar. she cheated a few times and they had a kid keeping them together. he numbed himself to everything for over a decade and i believe *she* finally initiated the divorce. he had been divorced five years and seemed very confident, caring and loving. i was the first girlfriend to go home to his parents, meet his kid, etc. he did put in effort and we both thought we'd found "the one" at last.. well, this lasted for about nine months until his past caught up with him and he started to withdraw and get extremely depressed. so, when i left him he was the biggest mess.. not the person (i thought) i fell in love with. any chance of these guys getting counseling, getting their sh*t together and working to get us back some day? as i'm writing this i'm feeling this driving nooooo building in my body.