going through break up

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
going through break up
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 3:02pm

hi all, i'm new here. kinda sad to have to go to a board to talk about my feelings but all my friends are married and starting to have kids. They have no clue what it feels like to go through a breakup anymore. Besides that they are so coupled up, its hard to get a girls night out anymore.


anyways, i broke things off with my boyfriend on Saturday night. long story short, we were going to break up come january when i moved. Neither he nor I could see things working for us long term and there is no engagement in the near future - so it didnt seem worth it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:11pm

Hi Surfergirl, First of all Im really sorry your suffering with a kidney infection.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:23pm

hi surfergirl,

i'm sorry to hear you're not feeling well. i completely understand about the deadlines. school is hectic for me during the day, and i'm trying to complete a masters course online (including weekly assignments and discussions). i found that actually setting time aside to sulk and have a pity party actually helps me get some 'head space' for my job and schoolwork.

like you, all my friends are married with kids, and they seem to 'disappear' when they are in relationships. with my current situation, i just got tired of hearing all the trite comments of how i'll find someone, how great i am, how it's his loss, how i can do better, etc. i just joined this message board this week. i felt silly at first, but it's nice to know that i'm not alone with my situation, and i've read a lot of insightful responses.

hugs, lisa

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2006
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:36pm

:all the trite comments of how i'll find someone:


ha, one of my miserably married friends (who doesn't realize it) nearly patted me on the head when she said this. really made me angry it was so condescending. i've turned guys down. it's not finding someone, it's finding someone i'm happy with...


surfer & lisa, i'm in the same position. i tend to hang with younger friends b/c they're the only ones who go out. it's actually taken me years to make 3 good girlfriends. now the main one is getting married so that will dwindle down again. too bad we don't all live in the same town, we could have a sexy & singles club.


hugz to both of you.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:43pm

thanks you two , ive been on ivillage boards before, but mainly on the dating ones prior to me dating my ex bf. so its been awhile, 2 years , since ive been around here.


it's hard though, I can't believe I don't have one single friend, it's kinda making it worse for me, because I really don't have any friends to confide in.


He and I will talk next week, and we'll be in touch before I leave... it's just im sad, and hoped we could've made it to January.