Good Days and Bad Days...

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Good Days and Bad Days...
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 2:00pm
Today is another BAD I miss him day! I had a really good day Friday and Saturday, but then yesterday I got depressed again. I miss him, I miss him so much it literally hurts my body. A mutual friend of ours called me to see how I was, and then she told me he went out with her and her boyfriend Saturday night, and that he seemed really good. WHY did she have to tell me this? I don't want to know that he is happy and OVER me! I just don't get how men get over it so quickly, its not fair. I hate missing him, I hate the fact that I love him, I want to be free of this...UGH!!
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 2:37pm
Hi,

Your mutual friend did you a diservice to tell you that they went out with him and he seemed really good but think about this.... he wasn't about to act sad knowing it was going to get back to you. He's going to put up his best face forward to ensure that when you hear about him you assume he's just fine without you. No one wants the ex to find out how they are really feeling. Whenever I meet up with friends of my ex I always act like the world is on my side and I couldn't be happier when the truth is I am miserable. Anyhow, we all have good days and bad days but as time goes on the good days are more frequent than bad days. You need to keep yourself occupied with hobbies or whatever and whenever you think about him, try to think of something else. I am sorry for what you are going through. I was there a few months ago and I am proof that everyday is better than yesterday and I am sure tomorrow will be better than today. Best to you. Lucy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 2:45pm
I don't think they get over it any quicker than we do. I think they just don't show it as much because they're taught very early on not to show their feelings. I think it's kind of sad. And I really hated it when my ex acted all cool. It drives me crazy. It's sort of like if they would hurt just a little more we would feel better, right? We would feel like we actually meant something to them.

The friend telling you that he seemed fine was extremely insensitive. Are you sure this is someone you want to remain friends with?

Here's to better days. We'll get there eventually. I know it feels like it's not soon enough, but we WILL get there, I promise you.