It may seem as if she were your "angel," but would she really have treated you so disrespectfully, continuing to spend time with other men, and lying to you about being the "only one she truly cared about," if she were? As has been mentioned in many posts on this board, it doesn't matter how much you idolize someone or what characteristics you project onto them, because in the end, they are what they are. And in your case, she wasn't at all what you thought, or wanted, her to be.
Don't lose heart though: that girl, the one who will be your angel and deserving of all of the things you think about her, is out there. You may not feel much like dating now, or feeling at all like you can trust someone else, but that will come in time.
uncommononsense I can't go back to yesterday--because I was a different person then. --L. Carroll
All valid points, however, it wasn't always bad! I mean we had some fun together! Your right though her actions do not validate me calling her my angel at all... But I was not aware of them until last night!
No relationship or situation is ALL bad, just like no person is ALL bad. The question is- is it more bad than good? or...does the bad stuff overshadow or outweigh the good? If someone does one bad thing, you could maybe let that go...but she has done several huge bad things.
She obviously has some issues of her own; so be happy you never got to know that side of her until she chose to exit. You could have wasted much more time with this girl who was pretending to be someone she was not, and then how would you feel?
It is so hard now for us! But, in a few years, when you are still happily single or happily in love or happily married or happily-whatever...you will either be asking yourself "What was I THINKING?" or you will remember just the happy times without the pain. It just takes time. Keep busy like you have been- that is great!
standintall,
It may seem as if she were your "angel," but would she really have treated you so disrespectfully, continuing to spend time with other men, and lying to you about being the "only one she truly cared about," if she were? As has been mentioned in many posts on this board, it doesn't matter how much you idolize someone or what characteristics you project onto them, because in the end, they are what they are. And in your case, she wasn't at all what you thought, or wanted, her to be.
Don't lose heart though: that girl, the one who will be your angel and deserving of all of the things you think about her, is out there. You may not feel much like dating now, or feeling at all like you can trust someone else, but that will come in time.
uncommononsense
I can't go back to yesterday--because I was a different person then. --L. Carroll
Sorry this happened to you, but be glad that it was only 2 1/2 years versus 10 or so years like others have invested to only break up or divorce.
******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over againWelcome to the board standintall,
First, I'm not sure what you mean by this comment:
::Thanks, but not in her eyes, or anyone elses on this board...
Are you having a pity party or has someone said something to you specifically?
This girl you call an *angel*, previously dated a married man and thought it was an accomplishment (previous post on the board).
standintall,
No relationship or situation is ALL bad, just like no person is ALL bad. The question is- is it more bad than good? or...does the bad stuff overshadow or outweigh the good? If someone does one bad thing, you could maybe let that go...but she has done several huge bad things.
She obviously has some issues of her own; so be happy you never got to know that side of her until she chose to exit. You could have wasted much more time with this girl who was pretending to be someone she was not, and then how would you feel?
It is so hard now for us! But, in a few years, when you are still happily single or happily in love or happily married or happily-whatever...you will either be asking yourself "What was I THINKING?" or you will remember just the happy times without the pain. It just takes time. Keep busy like you have been- that is great!