got back with the ex, having issues..
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| Wed, 07-20-2005 - 2:14am |
I will try and make this short since its such a long story..
Me and my ex broke up for 6-7 months and just recently started dating again..3 weeks almost..but i dont know if we got back together for the right reasons.
We went out about 3 weeks ago with some friends and we slept together, i had a few drinks but still yes i did know what i was doing and when i woke up in the morning i definetly realized what i did..now the problem is that i think i pressured him into a relationship because of what happened.
I also feel like he just missed the sex..we started saying i love you right away and even though it feels right and i love hearing it and saying it again, i dont get the same feeling as i once did. i dont really feel a whole lot when he says it, like i feel he says it because he thinks he has too..or because he knows i want to hear it? i just dont feel there is much feeling behind it. i love him, i fell inlove with him the first time i looked at him again. we went out for 10 months, on and off since for 4 years and apart of me tells me to end this and that we are so over and just dragging it on but yet i still feel that i should wait it out and i should be more patient.
I have talked to him about this and all he says is "i love you and want to be with you and i dont feel the need to have this conversation" and for whatever reason i dont believe him, i want to but i dont. am i expecting too much too soon from us starting over again?
What should i do?

Hi,
Exactly the same thing happened to me... we were on a break and then when we came back, his words just didn't sound right. I have to give him credit - he tried very hard to change things when we got back together, but it just didn't seem natural and little by little the same old problems (that reminded me why we took a break on the first place) aroused. Now, we just broke it off, 4 months later and he found someone new.
I would say - back it off a little bit, don't rush into things... don't see him very very often... take a fresh start and communicate better. Don't corner him by trying talking to him, don't accuse him. Just tell him how you feel and what do you think is needed to be done in order to have a succesful relationship. If he doesn't want to talk now, set up time with him to talk. It's very important you do, because otherwise - the same problems will arise.
Good luck!!!