got dunmp sunday(day after our 9mounth)

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got dunmp sunday(day after our 9mounth)
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Wed, 05-17-2006 - 1:36pm

help!!!!!....i got dumped sat and i dunno why really i had been jealous of him beging m8's with his ex and i looked on his phone and told him as i felt bad.....anyway that was 3weeks ago and then he dumped me i dunno what happend and he says he still loves me but why won't he try then i would walk on glass for him(he moved country for me)....he said he hated it here,but that was the first i heare of it.....i dunno what to do i would have done anything for him and i stopped beging jealous...sometime ago....i want him back and might see him sat....but is it to soon to try and talk to him??????? he is very hard to talk to.....what should i do????

p.s his ex is coming iver to vist next tuesday

p.p.s......i miss him and want him back help me,and i want to know why he won't try if he says he loves me....why did he say that and then dump me.....???? i don't understand

ooooh and i have A-level exams coming up! I ONE MOUTH....

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 2:09pm
Welcome to the board, first of all. Second, are you saying that you got jealous and looked on his phone, and then confessed to him that you snooped, and he dumped you? If you snooped, and then got dumped, I would say that's what he dumped you for, for invading his privacy and not trusting him. I think we've all been guilty of snooping in our lives, and sometimes it just doesn't turn out too well. He probably does still love you, since you can't just turn off your feelings for someone overnight, but sometimes, sadly, love isn't enough to keep a relationship going. Trust and communication are also key to a happy relationship. If he's coming over, then maybe you could sit down and calmly ask him why he ended things. Don't beg, don't plead, don't whine, just ask him why and see what he says. If he says it's for snooping and looking at his phone like that, showing you don't trust him, explain to him that it isn't that you don't trust him, but that you were just insecure about yourself and that spilled over onto him. Try some calm and honest conversation with him and see what happens. You may be surprised to find out his reasons for breaking up with you are varied, or they may just center on the invasion of privacy, and you may find out that you don't want him back as much as you thought after all. (((HUGS))) and I hope all turns out for the best, whether that means being with him, or starting a new life without him.
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:30am

Welcome to iVillage, we're so glad to have you participating this week as a "guest".