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got an 'i love you' text message
| Tue, 08-07-2007 - 8:37am |
It's been three weeks since my bf of 8 mos. dumped me and left me devastated. There was no contact, and then when he didn't call me on my birthday I wrote him a letter. That was last week; it's probably been four or five days since he got it. So I just got that breakup book 'It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken' and have been really coming to terms with this reality of mine, when this morning, as I lay in bed trying desperately to fall back asleep, (from 4:30 a.m. til 6:40) I noticed I had a text message. It came from just a number (since I deleted him from my phone as soon as he dumped me) but of course I knew who it was. Sent at 12:15 a.m. 'Good night. I love you.'
WTF?
The book would tell me to do nothing, I bet.
What would you do?
WTF?
The book would tell me to do nothing, I bet.
What would you do?

For you it seems like the no contact rule is completely working because obviously he is still thinking about you. I know I would probably give in and text him back but I agree with you that everyone is probably going to advise you against it. if you really are almost over him it might be smarter to not respond.
I say, finish the book first, then decide what you want to do. Do you feel like this break up is the best thing for both of you? Do you see your relationship working in the future? Even if he pulls another stunt like breaking up with you again?
He's feeling lonely, and now he's starting to wonder why you aren't begging him to come back. If you really feel like getting back together is the right thing, then he needs to do a LOT more than send some dinky text message... maybe you need some flowers, a singing telegram, and ummmm maybe a trip to the Caribbean or something. Don't make it that easy for him.
Welcome to the board quietdomino7,
I would do nothing. If he's not stepping up to the plate in person, saying it and saying he wants to make it work, then consider it a drunk text and let it go.