Great book from the author of HJNTIY!!!

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Great book from the author of HJNTIY!!!
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 3:00pm

It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy
by Greg Behrendt

I just spent the last 3 hours reading this book which I picked up from Costco---very empowering & helpful for anyone going through a break-up. By the same author of "He's just not that into you"

Description

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There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting today, you’re not the kind of woman who settles for broken, or hangs on to damaged goods, be it a radio, a pair of shoes, or a relationship. It’s time to get rid of all the broken stuff you’ve been lugging around for days, months, and maybe even years, and make the bold decision to start looking for stuff that works! Because the longer you stay stuck in a dead–end relationship, the less time you get on this planet to experience a great one. So open up this book, and let’s dive in—our goal is to help you turn your breakup into the event that changes your life for the better in ways you never dreamed possible.

The co–author of the smash two–million copy bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt knows that the one thing harder than realizing he’s not that into you is finding the courage to walk away from the relationship. But Greg and his co–author and wife, Amiira, also know that there’s a flip side to every breakup: As dark as everything seems right now, this could be the single best thing that’s ever happened to you.

It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken is the ultimate survival guide to getting over Mr. Wrong and reclaiming your inner Superfox. From how to put yourself through “he–tox,” to how to throw yourself a kick–ass pity party, Greg and Amiira share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game. They give advice on:

•Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do

•How to keep your friends and not lose your job

•How to avoid breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex

•Reframing reality—seeing the relationship for what it was

•How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, brighter future that awaits

It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken gives you everything you need to get over him and make the right decisions along the way. Complete with an essential workbook to help you put the crazy down on paper and not take it out into the world, this is a straight–talking, spot–on, must–have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you.

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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:29pm

Sounds great..I cannot get it for awhile as I am traveling out of the US. Quick question, what DOES he think when u call? "•Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do

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Also what was the cost of the book?

What do they say in summary about sleeping with your ex? I have not but will be faced with this soon and am 99% I will not..I do NOT WANT TO ...but need a fire under my *&&

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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 4:46pm

Saw Greg and his wife on the Today show this morning...and they were mostly talking about how asking "why" is such a big waste of time because you are NEVER going to get an answer that will satisfy you, and it keeps you stuck. I liked hearing that because it confirms what I've often said on these boards.

One thing I disagree with somewhat is that you should have no contact with your ex for 60 days. I agree with no contact, but I don't think 60 days is enough in most cases (unless you only dated for about 4 months or less). I'm going to see him when he's here in Seattle on his book tour so I'm going to ask him about that. My fear is that many women who really need to have no contact for a lot longer (or even never) will take that as gospel and thinks it's ok to be in contact after 60 days. But this was just based on what they said on Today...maybe he's more specific about longer periods in the book?

Sheri

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Registered: 09-22-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 6:01pm

I haven't read the book; however, my thinking when I heard that 60 days stuff was that if you are strict about not contacting your ex for 60 days, after that it won't take so much effort and you probably won't want to contact him... At least I would hope that's what he was aiming for; I sure needed a heck of a lot more than 60 days!

Nikki