Great book, helped w/realization....
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| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:30am |
I have not posted here in a while, but I wanted to let everyone know about this great book I just read. My mom, of all people, picked it up for me at the airport on her way home. It's called "be honest, You're not that into him either: Raise your standards and reach for the love you deserve." by Ian Kerner. Yeah, I know, long title but so worth the read (it's an easy read too).
Anyways, my ex and I have been broken up for about 7 months, since he told me he was going to start seeing someone else. That sent me into a tailspin!!! Since we have a daugther together, the usual n/c rules and all don't really apply to us. This book just helped me realize that I really, really never was in love with him. I "knew" that deep down, but with all the external factors (child, doing the right thing) I thought that maybe it was meant to be with him. It isn't. I am even able to get back in touch with my "love" for him as my friend (very best friend for 2 years before we got together) and wish him and his new g/f the best, and really mean it.
There is still a little hurt...I wonder why he ended up treating me so badly throughout our relationship, but, now all that matters to me is that we maintain a decent relationship for our daughter's sake. I really don't care about him, as a boyfriend, anymore to be upset. Does any of this make sense, or do you think I have just lost my mind?
Well, I just wanted to put that book out there, b/c it really, really opened my eyes and I have felt soooo much better since I've read it. Thanks for reading! Cait
