grieving and broken up
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grieving and broken up
| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 9:23am |
hi, my boyfriend of 4 yrs and i broke up this weekend, after a long period of just not really having that spark in our relationship anymore. It was a sort of mutual break up, but he initiated it. I wasnt even thinking about our relationship lately i was just in survival mode- i needed him because someone close to me died this past week and am grieving hard over that still. now suddenly i have to grieve over what was once a close relationship with someone i love very much. i felt pretty drained with the death i had to deal with now i have to find the energy for this. i cant even get out of bed, let alone eat. has anyone been in my situation, how do you grieve over 2 things at the same time?

To be honest I have never been in this situation before. I would like to say sorry for your losses, I know when you break up it can feel as bad as someone dying can, and the worst thing is, someone has just died, and now you have this to deal with.
Welcome to the board ks1212,
It's like a double death. Consider grief counseling to help you through it.
Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1