Gut instincts

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Registered: 08-04-2005
Gut instincts
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:07pm

So my boyfriend had been acting weird and was texting a whole lot...something he never really did. When I asked who he was texting, he named some guy friend. so I checked his phone. There are some texts to a girl he knows. It seems they never met up...but he's invited her different places and called her cutie pie and baby.

Last year we broke up, got back together and up until a week ago he was the greatest boyfriend ever. It's been about 6 months the second go 'round.

I confronted him today and he of course freaked out, told me he's done nothing wrong the girl is a friend, she was in a bad mood and what he said was to make her smile. Still doesn't explain the lying thing. I'm just confused...I feel like I'm being manipulated, but at the same time feel terrible to stooping to the level of checking his phone. There definitely is a trust issue, but he makes me feel like I overreact and am being ridiculous.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 3:45am
His explantion is pure BS. Why did you break up the first time? Was it something similar to this thing? He may have a pattern that he showed the first time and now 6 months after getting back together he shows it again. His words of "maker her smile" are just a bunch of lies. Why is he inviting this girl places? Did he tell you about it? If he can't come up with a better explanation the second time you question him it could be that he's indeed lying. If the story changes, details are added and he gates mad at you you may have a cheater in your hands.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:08pm

I dunno, my guy friends ask me to dinner or coffee, to the beach or to go see a rock concert to make me feel better because they know that's what I like to do to get back in a good mood, but they don't call me baby or cutie pie. But then again, I'd probably deck 'em if they did ;)

If you are getting one of those gut reactions, and you know that otherwise you haven't been overreacting to things, maybe it's time to look at this a little harder. Don't snoop, that's just petty, but the lying, that just leads to all kinds of misery afterwards. If this is how your breakup happened before, and the *same* behavior is going on a year later, doesn't look like he's learned. But hopefully you did.

Best,

Sandra

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