Guy needs help :(

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Registered: 02-03-2007
Guy needs help :(
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 11:42am

I have been searching around the internet and it seems the only people wo actually talk any sense are woman. Im probably not even supposed to be posting on this site but anything that might help me i will do at the moment. I basically have just got out of a 2 year relationship, im 20 years old and was the one who got dumped. Me and my Ex have had a reasonably good relationship until just after my birthday, early december last year.

Things started going different just after my birthday, for my birthday my ex bought me an xbox 360 (gota show some kinda ley hey?) all her wages for the month.. Now i jus feel that it was kinda of her way of gettin equal because of all the nice things i bought her over our relationship. Anyways after that me and her didnt see too much of each other due to us both working long hours over the busy christmas period, i just hoped after this busy time we would just get back and be ok.

My ex started seeing another guy around christmas, i obviously let her due to the trust and hell they were only supposed to be friends, however the more she saw him it got later when she got home and when i adventually confronted her and just said bit late to be home she finally admitted to having feelings for him, i offered to leave her and let her move on if it made her happy but she jus broke down in tears telling me not to go. Over the following 5 weeks almost up til now i found out slowly more and more about her feelings and got told she needed a break, we had one and she kept dragging me along more and more, with me constantly hoping to get back with her properly.

Finally she finished us saying she hasnt been happy for along time (untrue i believe) and that she just needed time away from all guys to get her college work done and have some fun with her mates, i was heartbroken even after i saw it coming, i really let her into my life and heart and it destroyed me. last but not least she came back to my house just to talk last friday to dicuss being friends, i was happy and was going to go to sleep and she kissed me used me and afterwards just said oh btw i hope you know we are just friends. yet again more heart break. now she has already moved on to another guy (the same one as christmas) they both like each other and this hurts, a week after breaking me off and saying she needs to be single...

Please can anyone help or offer advice, i could really do with some, thanks for listening too.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 1:05pm

I'm realy very sorry about what you're going through right now, having your heart broken is one of the worse emotional experiences we can go through.


I'm thinking it's time to cut all ties with her. Don't let her talk to you, definitely don't let her come over.

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Registered: 01-31-2007
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 3:34pm

"now she has already moved on to another guy ... a week after breaking me off and saying she needs to be single."

boy, i hear you there. isn't that just about the most awful part? damn.

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Registered: 02-03-2007
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 5:12pm
yea thanks for both the posts back, i dont usually outlet all my feelings to anyone, just saw soo many people going through the sae things thought might help, carry on posting nice to read, thanks guys!
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Registered: 02-04-2007
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 1:09pm
Forget her!! She obviously wasn't into you enough to be going out with another guy. Once a girl cheats on a man that's a very clear indication that you are not the one for her. Eat a lot of pizza, cry, mull over memories then move one. She did not do right by you. It's over. It will be better soon, it doesn't feel that way right now, but soon you notice the pretty girl on the bus and one day the world will feel better. Been through a recent breakup myself, October to January, it was a series of painful goodbyes, let's be friends- while I hoped for more. Don't do it, don't be friends, unless you are completely over her or better yet you have a new girlfriend.