Happened again.........
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| Fri, 06-10-2005 - 10:38am |
Well I had a plan for this weekend, my boyfriend (now ex) said he'd take the day off work today and we'd have a nice long weekend together. So i call him this morning and ask him what time he's coming over, he tells me he'll be over in half an hour.
So he comes over, and tells me he doesn't want to be with me anymore.
What????!!!
He did this to me on the 10th of february,4 months ago to the day, then called me 3 days later.
Somehow this time i don't think thats going to happen again.
I'm confused because only the other day I was telling my friend I didn't know how much more crap I could take off him because he just never seemed to have any time for me but it was just such a shock today. He said that he didnt think of me as his girlfriend anymore (obviously I was just there as a convenience) and I moved up here from 300 miles away to be with him. I met him in boarding school when I was 16 and I'm now 19 so it's quite a big chunk of my short life just gone up in smoke.
I have only cried once, in a way i feel relieved because i dont have to be stressed all the time about when we get to see each other, and i feel that i can now be with someone who can treat me the way i deserve to be treated.
Last time we broke up i literally felt like i was gonna die, i couldnt stop crying, couldnt eat.... but now i feel strangely glad. Just a bit numb really. I can't even really miss him calling me and stuff because it was me doing all the calling most of the time.
I know obviously it's gonna hit me and i'm gonna feel like crap for a while, but then i'd rather feel like crap and get over it than feel like crap for the rest of my life being with him.
What do you guys think? do u think im in denial?
any advice would be much appreciated.
:)

I'm not sure what advice you're looking for...I think your observations are right on (you feel a little sad but mostly relieved because you're off the roller coaster).
I would do whatever you can to prevent him from contacting you (such as blocking him from emailing you) so you can move on and be ready to meeting someone who's right for you sooner rather than later.
Sheri
you're a really strong woman. i like what you had to write and i wish i could be as positive as you about my break up from this morning.
i think you're on the right track. i've heard lots of baths and outings with friends are at the very least a good start to getting over a guy. i watched alot of movies when i went through a huge break up in college and that seemed to help - if nothing else - me getting to sleep at night.
good luck and i'm sure you'll find someone more deserving of you!
thanks for the reply. hopefully, i'll feel better soon. i'm doing tons better today because i know it was never going anywhere. i'm just kinda sad that i'm alone. it hurts for someone to not care about not being with you but that's life sometimes i guess. i'm glad it's over but sad because he was such a big part of my life.
hope you're feeling better and good luck!
Anyone who needs advice my email address is on the post ok :)