Hardest Part of No Contact?

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Hardest Part of No Contact?
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:43am
I am on day 5 of NC (long story short, which my ex ended abruptly after a 2 year relationship w/ plans to start a family). Does anyone else find that the hardest part of NC is not holding back yourself, but that he has not tried to contact you at all? That is how I feel, and what makes this really hurtful in my situation is that after the breakup I left him a message that I would be changing my # and moving (which was not really true, I just wanted to scare him b/c during the breakup he was begging me to stay in touch and said he would even if I did not) yet he did not even respond to that! Is it really possible that he just does not care? Please be honest - I can handle it.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 12:43pm

Hi waterworks,


I think the question you asked is the number one question people ask when going through a break up.

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:32pm
they are humans they care but they dont want that anyone knows about it.them being strong is the ony way to finnish what they started.did u noticed guys dont change so often minds- now i want her now i dont..for us is like 50 times in the day..and we show it..calling or smth..they just wanna stick to it..
i did the same ..packed my stuffs and wait for him to see them.i didnt plan to move i just waned to get some reaction..nothing..i think by doing this we more hurt our selfs then them
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Registered: 02-25-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:01pm
I am now on 3 weeks of no contact...and it was my mistake that ended the relationship (even though I regret it so much now)
Anyway, I had some wonderful advice from my friend yesterday. I feel the same way, that my ex doesn't care (how could he NOT? We had such a great relationship?) and I couldn't believe that he just "went on" and "doesn't care" She told me that it isn't that he doesn't care, or is not even thinking about it, its just that he has "adapted"...
She gave me the example of going away for a while...you can adapt to being away from home/what you're used to for a while, and you can do really well and enjoy it. But, eventually the change gets old and you eventually get homesick and want to go back to what you know. So...even if it seems like he doesn't care now, he eventually will. He will want to go back to what he knows. I think he will call you once the "adapting" period is over and the newness of the breakup gets old. Thats not to say that you'll necessarily get back together, but he will "care." hope it helps a little!