harsh words

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Registered: 02-04-2008
harsh words
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:37am

so like a complete idiot i got on my ex's myspace. I found where he was talking to some girl saying that he thinks i deleted his myspace and that

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Registered: 08-01-2004
In reply to: greekgirl23
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 4:22am

oh man..it is so weird how they change right? At one moment they love you, all is great, all is cool, they do all the nice things and at the next is like a complete switch. Completely new person. It's unbelievable. I don't even know how to handle my situation. It was so hard, I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, every awake moment i thought of him. The reality of things is, this already happened to me once, this is the second time, and just as I thought I will be stronger the 2nd time around I realized that every time you fall in love it can't be anything else but your heart breaking and there's no reason to heal it. Just give it time, don't go to his myspace, facebook whatever he might use. Just stay clear of him, ok? The less you see him, the less you'll think of him.


I know it's hard ...so damn hard..you can do it though..just think of all the ladies all around the world that have their heart broken right about now. So, firstly, you are not alone. Secondly, there are more guys out there even though you might think this one was the only one for you. I keep a journal and I reread what I wrote two years ago when I had a realy hard break up. I though my life was ending, I thought he was the only one for me, I could never love again.


I did however. The only problem, I got my heart broken again. For the second time. I think I'm running out of patience with the guys.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: greekgirl23
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 12:50pm

Welcome to the board greekgirl23,


I'm going to be blunt, k?

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Registered: 02-04-2008
In reply to: greekgirl23
Tue, 03-04-2008 - 2:13am

I've been trying to figure out why i am so upset about this when before it seemed like i was doing very well with moving on. I know that looking on his myspace caused my relapse but i'm so angry at myself for not being strong enough to get past it better. I pretty much already knew that he didn't want to have anything to do with me and that there was never going to be some nice friendship between us. I guess i just didn't want to see any proof of it.


i find myself thinking about him when we first started dating. I think now that i can see who he really is on his myspace i am having a considerably hard time letting that person from the beginning of the relationship go in my memory. the guy

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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: greekgirl23
Tue, 03-04-2008 - 6:57am

hi greekgirl



I dont know all the factors that led to your breakup, but I can tell you that it takes 2 people working in a relationship. So putting blame on yourself and saying that if you hadn't worried so much, or had been more chill, he would still be around is not true.

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Registered: 02-04-2008
In reply to: greekgirl23
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:38am

thanks for those words lovergrl. i really needed to hear them. i've been kicking myself too much and i need to get over it. there were so many things that he did that were just too hard for me to tolerate and i need to make myself remember that i had my reasons for acting the way i did. though i will be sure to try to be more understanding in my future relationships, i'm not going to tolerate the kind of behavior that i got from my ex.


i cried a little today but i guess thats just part of it. my head has been so jumbled that i hardly know what i cry about anymore. i just know that being stronger is the best thing i can do for myself. thats all that really matters, fixing the problems i had and letting go of what i've done and accepting the fact that my immature ex is going to call me names. its obvious i was with the wrong guy if he is even going to be saying things like that about me when he knew i cared about him once. oh well, things happen to some of us that just sucks and we have to do whatever we can to get past it. i just hope to find someone in the future who will actually be worth my time.


so thanks again. i actually printed out what you wrote so i can read it when i'm feeling bad and am away from my computer. :)

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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: greekgirl23
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:35am
Hey I still cry and its been 5 mos since the breakup. I dont cry because I miss him, I think i just cry because i had to end it and I still wish I hadn't had to do it.
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Registered: 02-04-2008
In reply to: greekgirl23
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 8:26am

hmmm. i can understand that. i'm sure his behavior was pretty bad for you to have it in you to break it off. unfortunately i wasn't that strong enough, i didn't have it in me to leave him so i ended up getting DUMPED (i really hate that lol).

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Registered: 02-27-2008
In reply to: greekgirl23
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 10:15am

Hi Greekgirl23,


Please don't beat yourself up for looking at his myspace.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: greekgirl23
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 1:53pm

Girls, Girls....


you are dwelling on who dumped who- dont do that to yourself!