hating the weirdness

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hating the weirdness
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:41pm

for the past few years, me and a group of friends (current ex included) would mass

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 4:45am

approaching day 18 of no contact.


i had a major breakdown today.


i looked at one of his online profiles, and he had deleted

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 9:57am
I am so sorry for you feeling this way?

Hugs,

 

Dbest

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 10:56am

I wish I had some wise or clever insights, but I don't. You're going through a crapload of changes in your life, and I think you need to give yourself a break and nuture yourself. Breaking up is a stressful process, and I think we have to acknowledge that. I've been looking for ways to reduce the stress in my life and become better at self-nuturing. I've been doing a lot of praying and reading the Bible, lighting candles, burning incense, meditating, doing yoga, doing housework when I'm too 'antsy' to sit and watch a movie, talking with friends, writing in my journal, etc. The focus is on ME. Be selfish. Focus on you. Be good to you. Learn more about you. Figure out what you want in a relationship, the qualities you are looking for in

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 12:43pm

Sounds like you are in the Despair stage of the grieving process -


Relationship Grieving Process

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 3:12pm

thanks, everyone. i know there are good and bad days... can't say i've had any good days since everything happened, but these past two days have definitely been horrible days. it was around this time three years ago that we got together. i've been having flashbacks of those great times.


there are just so many waves of pain. i can't really articulate it, but i'm sure you know what i mean.


i'm doing my best to move on. some of these changes in my life are ones i'm actively pursuing (e.g. changing apartments) to distract myself and i guess build a "new" life. other stresses i have are beyond my control, and that's why i've felt so overwhelmed, because he was my anchor before and would've helped me through all this.


yeah, i'm not sure why i think i'll be "forgotten" either. we weren't just hooking up or "seeing" each other... had it not been for the distance drama, we most likely would've lived together. but i guess knowing that he started another relationship so quickly after ours provokes those thoughts of being forgotten, because now that he supposedly is with someone he "wants," she'll be the one on his mind. sigh.


i still have a few days off this week (would've been our anniversary), and nothing to do with them since i'm so broke. i really wanted to take a vacation or go on a retreat, but i can't :(


i'm trying to be strong, but i

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Registered: 10-29-2007
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 6:54pm

I am on day 14 with NC, however I am curious how to handle him contacting me.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 7:02pm

Welcome to the board almyboys,


Consider posting a new thread, as your post is kind of buried in the long one and you'll get more replies if you start your own.

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 2:31am

i'm approaching day 20 of no contact.


i thought it'd be good to post part of what i wrote to sandradee after finding out he got a new

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