Have any of you been left for the fir...
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| Fri, 09-10-2004 - 9:53am |
Have any of you been left for the first love?
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Lois
He found his first love from 34 years before.
It is/was hard. Been 3 years now, since the divorce.
They are still together. Somehow, that's unsettling for me, because I have heard that affairs usually end after 2 years due to trust issues.
I guess that you should be comforted that you had not invested too much time. Although, I know that that is the one thing we can never get back.
Hope you're on the mend.
Anyway, yes -- I am on the mend. I have taken this time to learn about myself and the choices I make.
I can't imagine the pain you must have gone through. I wonder if going back to that first love makes them feel young again -- like going back to a time when responsibilites were light and life was more carefree. I mean, I personally can't imagine still being hung up on someone I dated when I was 20. Shoot, I can barely remember that long ago.
So how about you? Were you able to move on and create a good life for yourself?
Take care,
Lois
I wish that I had gotten ANY indication that there was anything wrong.
He was extremely deceptive. (Of course, I am speaking of both my ex and your boyfriend.)
At the time that the affair was going on, he would try to convince my children that I was having an affair. (At the time, my job required overtime hours.) He even tried to convince me. My daughter (age 15, at the time) told me that she thought her dad was having an affair. Must have been so hard for her to tell me.
Afterwards, everything that I have read has said the same thing. The ones practicing the deception try to throw suspicion ob the innocent party. Seems at the end, my children knew.
Yes, I do believe that they try to recapture their youth. For me, it seemed so unfair. When we married, I was 18, he 26. With no indication that he had any baggage. Imagine my surprise.
And, I am like you. Heck, I wouldn't want to run into anyone of the first guys I dated. My first love? I wouldn't stop to give him a lift, if he were broken down.
I have learned alot about myself. Some good, some not so good.
My children are 27,23 & 18. So, what do I do? I fell in love with someone with children 6 & 12.
I just couldn't go back again. I tried. Was even married for a brief time.
Seems somehow unfair, all my life I have tried to do the "right thing", and by doing so, I lose myself.
So, now with 2 marriages under my belt, I am ready to figure out just what it is that I want.
Currently, unemployed. I know that things will get better, they always do. I have faith that they will.