** HAVING A BAD DAY DEALING WITH THE BRE

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Registered: 01-17-2006
** HAVING A BAD DAY DEALING WITH THE BRE
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 3:02pm

HI ALL

WELL HOW BAD IS THIS BREAKING UP WITH SOMEONE !!! WELL I SPLIT UP A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO AFTER GETTING BACK WITH HIM FOR A SECOND TRY...... AS SOON AS WE GOT BACK I KNEW I HAD MADE THE WRONG DECISION. WHEN WE SPLIT I SAID I WOULD NOT CONTACT HIM AND HE SHOULD NOT CONTACT ME..... ANYWAY HE TEXT ME LAST WEEK ASKING ME FOR SOMETHING ? I TOTALLY IGNORED IT.

REALLY FINDING IT HARD TODAY AS I HAVE BEEN SAT HER THINKING HAVE I MADE THE RIGHT DECISION AND WAS IT ME ???? IT REALLY IS HARD AS I DO BELIEVE WE BOTH CARED FOR EACH OTHER BUT JUST DID NOT SEE EYE TO EYE ON THINGS..

WHY IS IT THAT EVEN THOUGH YOU KNOW YOU ARE NOT IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU STILL WANT THEM. JUST CAN'T STOP CRYING TODAY - I NEED TO GET A GRIP - IM TRYING SO HARD TO GO OUT AND KEEP MYSELF BUSY - BUT JUST FEEL SAD AND LONELY I SUPPOSE. I THINK ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME.... KEEP TELLING MYSELF TO LET GO BUT FINDING IT REALLY HARD.

I JUST CAN'T STOP THINKING THAT IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND AM I EVER GOING TO MEET ANYONE WHO I'M HAPPY WITH!!!

THANKS ALL FOR READING - I DO THINK THIS SITE HAS REALLY HELPED AND ITS NICE TO KNOW THAT IM NOT ON MY OWN X

PS. MY GUT INSTINCT WAS THAT IT JUST WASN'T RIGHT BETWEEN US - ANY ADVICE

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 3:47pm

fireball2006...

No break-ups are easy to get through....BUT....when you've tried twice and things haven't worked, what's the point of putting yourself through the 'hurting process' indefinitely? .

If you keep receiving text messages...IGNORE THEM. If he telephones you at home or work, explain that YOU NEED YOUR SPACE for the next 3 weeks. If he wishes to contact you in mid-February, you can make the decision whether you wish to get together or not?

Just try to remember that there are people out there who WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP and WILL MAKE EVERY POSSIBLE EFFORT TO MAINTAIN HARMONY!

Ask yourself honestly...."is the man you've broken up with twice really worth your time and attention?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 3:56pm
Go with your gut/head because I have been learning the hard way these past couple weeks that your heart will only get you in trouble in this awful period. I broke up w/ my ex about 2 1/2 weeks ago. After almost 5 years I found out he's been cheating on me with someone he works with. So even after that I keep finding my heart making me think all these crazy things trying to convince me of things that I know are wrong. I've made the mistake of calling him and believe me it just makes it worse. All the progress I was making down the drain and then I start crying like a baby non stop once again. So please follow your head which usually will tell you the right thing to do. We are here to help each other through these tough times. Be strong!
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Registered: 01-17-2006
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 4:28am

Hi All

Thank you all so much for your advice - just want to stop hurting ... I do wish at times there was some medicine you could take to make the healing process faster.
Really has put me off seeing anyone else again.

x

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 7:09am

Grief is hard and it hurts.

Susan

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