Having a rough night

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Having a rough night
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:27pm

After a day out. Now I am at home. I've called my mom way too many times. She always asked what was wrong. She told me she wanted to give him a kick. So if anyone is around write back

Megan

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Registered: 08-20-2005
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:58pm
I'm having a rough night too. I laid in bed crying until I decided I needed to get up and do something about it. My name is Megan, too.
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Registered: 09-07-2005
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 12:16am
I can empathize with your situation. I just broke up with my boyfriend last night after our four year relationship. We had a lot of what I like to call "episodes" where I would get mad at him for doing something I didn't think he should do, and then he would get mad at me back in an attempt to try to make me feel like I was in the wrong. After that, I would freak out, thinking he was going to break up with me, and then I would do everything I could (obsessively) to try and get him back. I just moved to a new town, so we've been doing the long distance thing for a couple of months now. Being away from him helped me to realize that it was okay for me to be mad at his mistakes (in your case, his texting other girls). I finally realized that although I have a lot of feelings for him and I love him dearly, our relationship wasn't healthy. Being in a relationship where you are always in fear of losing the other person isn't satisfying - at least it wasn't for me. Even though you're hurting now, I think this will be for the best. You just have to be really strong and know that you don't want to be with someone who is going to make you feel like that. Life is too short - keep talking to your mom and I promise you will get through it. I deserve better, and so do you. Just keep telling yourself that.
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Registered: 09-08-2005
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 8:49am

Hey
last week i broke up w/ my fiance, of a year. About a month ago him and i had a disagreement and he punched me in the face and gave me a black eye. My parents saw it and my reponse was to say i was hit w/ a baseball and lied to everyone that is important to me. Well 3 weeks later it seemed as thou we were still disagreeing mainly on money(which was what started the fight) I thought he had given up so i left him one day while he was at work and came clean to my freinds and family. I dreamed of spending my life w/ him and it is so hard to deal w/ this. Imissed him so much that last night i went over his house, and my parents were worried and had a feeling that was were and showed up. They told me that they are gonna do everything to keep me away from him and i dont deserve this. No one deserves to be knocked out by the person they love. I so understand what being depressed and upset really feels like, but i have been told It only gets worse before it gets better and everything happens for a reason............

Robin

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 9:13pm
Thanks for the insite. He texted me last night. It said. "Yes or no question. Are you ok?" I did not respond. Then 20 minutes later he sent "Sorry I won't let it happen again."
Great don't. I had a great day yesterday and I wasn't going to let him ruin it. I am a teacher and we just started school. My first "real" job. I am not letting him it in my way of this. I love my kids I love the people I work with. It sucks at night, but it is getting better everyday. I like coming here and posting. You can read if you want or not. But it helps me get it our of my system. We need a section of just vent and read if you don't want or want. That would be good.
Well I am watching the OC. If you need to talk I will be here
Megan
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Registered: 09-07-2005
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 11:14pm
Sometimes it helps to just vent and it helps to know I'm not alone. I just started law school, so it's been hard to concentrate on studying...I'm usually ok when I'm at school and I'm busy, but it's when I get home at night that it starts to really hurt. I don't even want to go into my bedroom..there are so many pictures of us, and everything reminds me of him. The clothes I wear, jewelry he bought me, even our dogs...I feel sick. I've been crying, but oh well, it makes me feel better. I guess what I'm really dreading is the weekend. This will be our first weekend apart. I wonder what he will be doing..or if he cares about what I'm doing. It makes me ache thinking that I probably wont' talk to him ever again - or at least not for a long time. I know it sounds stupid, but I feel like he died. I feel like I lost my best friend and I'll never see him again. I'll just be happy when the weekend is over (I never thought I'd say that), but when I'm alone and by myself, it's really hard not to mope...Anyway, thanks for letting me vent this time. God knows I need it.
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Registered: 08-20-2005
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 11:22pm
I felt like my ex died too. :(
I feel your pain and I hope that you find something to do this weekend!
Take the pictures down in your room...
It was one of the most painful things I've ever had to do but now I can go into my room without crying. There's still clothes and jewelry and other items that he bought or that has a memory tied to him but at least I don't have to see his face.
Best of luck! Big hugs!
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:35pm
Hi,
Just broke up w/ my bf of 4 years last night- now I need to find a place to live. I am so sad all the time and can't believe this is it.
Trying to keep busy, going out w/ the girls tonight, but i feel so awful... hugs to all of you, remember women are the stronger sex, we all deserve better than this!
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Registered: 08-25-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 8:27pm
Unfortunately I know exactly how you feel. It's been about a month since my ex and I broke up and I still feel so sad :( We have not talked at all and I hear he has a new girlfriend already. How can he just move on so quick after being with me for 3 years?! I miss him so much even though I know this is for the better. Sometimes I feel great and other times I just want to cry. I finally took down most of the pictures and put away stuff that reminded me of him, but regardless it still hurts.& I know exactly what you mean about the weekends. It sucks dreading something you used to look forward to every week. I just wish I had some kind of closure! Well, good luck n hope ya feel better :)
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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 9:49pm
3 years friends.
3 years dating.
He broke up with me end of May but still called me every day and saw me at least once a week (with a few exceptions) because we were working through our problems and planned on getting back together.
Took trip to KY together 1st weekend of August.
On a Thursday night, 2 weeks later he still says things about getting back together and this isn't worth losing me over.
We fight 2 days later and he tells me "I'll call you back later"
A week later I text him asking for my movie gallery card back.
The next day I'm told he's dating a girl with 2 kids.
A week later he refuses to talk to me when I call and responds to text by telling me to leave him alone.
He takes his new girl to church, with her kids.
And all this after we broke up because he wasn't mature enough or financially stable enough for the commitment we were headed towards. (A little FYI, he had asked my mom's permission to marry me less than a month before he broke up with me)
There is no closure for me at all and I just get so angry when I think about it all.
In the words of Terri Clark (in her latest song, "She Didn't Have Time"):
"Even a stranger would show more compassion than that"
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:26pm
Physical is a no brainer..GET OUT..NEVER EVER give a second chance..man...

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