he already has a new girl

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Registered: 01-23-2007
he already has a new girl
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Tue, 02-13-2007 - 2:23pm

i cant believe. so i was dating this guy and in early jan. we kinda hit a little rough spot and i was like so pretty much its over then (he didn't seem that into me) and he said that he liked me alot more than i thought and that if i wanted to we could be a offical "couple" that kinda freaked me out and i told him i just wanted things to be exactly how they had been for the past few months. because they were amazingly great...seriously i fell head over heels for this guy. he didnt say much about it just...so i didnt think much. well anyhow...jan 15 he called from being gone all weekend and told me it was over. then he dropped me cold. but we started texting and talking a about a week later up until last week. anyhow....he lead me on good. saying he missed me..wanted to meet up. well anyhow he just totally drop me cold. so i finally got to talk to him asked him if he'd been seeing anyone he said no and that he just didnt want a girlfriend (and thats what happened to us). but then sunday night when i picked up some stuff i had at his place he said he'd been hanging out with people and i was like what the heck do you mean. finally he was like yes theres this girl and we're starting to have mutral "feelings" for each other. but this is the messed up part and its me. I'm still crazy about this guy and cant get over him. i have no clue what's going on with me. I've even talked to ex-boyfriends about this break up and everyone asks me..what happen to jessi? the one that got over me in a snap.

but is it really stupid for me to still have hope for this guy?

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 2:50pm
I'm not one to give advice ,but just to let you know,You are not alone.My Live in Boyfriend of 2 years,broke up with me on the phone & with in 24 hours was on a dating web site.Just makes me sick.Hang in there,Please don't contact him,It will only make you feel worse,trust me.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 3:39pm

Hi jmf0810 - he moves kind of fast I think.

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Registered: 01-01-2007
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 4:07pm

Crushed Heart and JMF0810-- I feel for both of you b/c I'm in the same situation. My live in b/f (ex now) broke up with me at New Years and he has someone else already too.
It breaks my heart. I'm trying my darndest to have no contact with him. I do well during the week but then the weekend hits and I fall apart. I can't stay busy enough and I know he's out there having the time of his life. I guess we're just different b/c I sit at home and cry my eyes out and he's out partying and hooking up (I know this for a fact).
It breaks my heart too. I just keep thinking back to how he treated me the last yr or so and it wasn't good--and I tell myself that I don't want someone who's not putting me #1. I keep thinking about what I want and what I deserve. I deserve someone who will treat me like I treat them (gold) and that's not what I had (even after dating him for 4 yrs--we were closer when we were just friends). Also, if he's willing to be with someone else so soon then what we had was more to me and whomever is with him now deserves it. It still hurts and I still cry (I have good and bad days--I hate listening to the radio b/c it brings back songs that remind me of him/us) but I know that I'll get over him just like I have in the past with other ex's.

If you ever want to talk feel free to e-mail me at smeloling@columbus.rr.com. I'm more than happy to talk.