He Blocked Me - It hurts

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Registered: 01-18-2008
He Blocked Me - It hurts
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Thu, 04-04-2013 - 6:43am

We broke up 3 weeks ago or I should say he broke up with me after a 7 year relationship.  I just learned that he blocked me from his phone and his FB. Why would he block me when I have stayed NC and not bothered him at all?  I got an email from him telling me in one sentence I am blocking you from phone and FB and email.  

It I had chased after him I could understand but haven't.  He was the one that was cheating and broke up with me 6 weeks after he met someone else.  Makes no sense to block someone who hasn't bothered you nor texted or called your number once.  I haven't tried to email or message him on facebook so why??? It hurt....That after 7 years he wiped me out of his life.  Is it to protect himself that I don't call because of the new girlfriend? 

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Registered: 01-11-2013
Thu, 04-04-2013 - 12:08pm

I think he could have blocked you for a lot of reasons.  Maybe he's ashamed of himself and seeing your name isn't something he wants to do.  Maybe he did it to help him move on faster (out of sight, out of mind).  Or maybe he's being dramatic and wants you to contact him (I say:  don't).

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 04-04-2013 - 1:24pm

Most likely the new girlfriend insisted he block you, in an effort to show that he is committed to her.

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Registered: 01-18-2008
Thu, 04-04-2013 - 4:57pm

Thanks ladies. Truth is it really doesn't matter why, I just can't understand it, thats all. Seems a bit senseless when I already blocked him and told him the last day we talked that I was going to so I could get my life together and find some peace.   Just annoyed that he did that, when it was pointless. I wasn't calling or texting him, I've stayed away and stayed quiet.  If I hadn't I could understand....

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 8:29am
Pointless to you, not to him. He really isn't trying to see things from your perspective--he's moved on. By blocking you, he's putting you firmly in the past. He doesn't care that you wouldn't have bothered him; this is not about you at all. Everything he's doing now is for the new girlfriend. I know it hurts, and it seems rude, but it really is all about him, and not at all about you.
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Registered: 08-09-2012
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 4:03pm

pat_tslady wrote:
<p>We broke up 3 weeks ago or I should say he broke up with me after a 7 year relationship.  I just learned that he blocked me from his phone and his FB. Why would he block me when I have stayed NC and not bothered him at all?  I got an email from him telling me in one sentence I am blocking you from phone and FB and email.  </p><p>It I had chased after him I could understand but haven't.  He was the one that was cheating and broke up with me 6 weeks after he met someone else.  Makes no sense to block someone who hasn't bothered you nor texted or called your number once.  I haven't tried to email or message him on facebook so why??? It hurt....That after 7 years he wiped me out of his life.  Is it to protect himself that I don't call because of the new girlfriend? </p>

It would appear, after reading your post on the EAS board, that this new girlfriend knows about you and told him she's not going to deal with him if he is in any way talking or communicating or has any kind of access to you, so he blocked you and told you that he was.  That you haven't chased after him is non sequitur.  He's demonstrating to her that things are over with you.

Plenty of people who break up one day out of the blue contact the person they were involved with under the guise of seeing how they're getting on in life, blah blah, but really trying to find out if the emotional road back is truly barred to them.  His new girlfriend appears to get this and threw down a gauntlet, which he then picked up.

He's done you a huge favor. Now you can move on with the solid knowledge that there is absolutely no future with him.  This frees you up to find and be with a man who wants you in his life and acts like it 24/7.

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Registered: 09-29-2010
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 4:25pm

"Seems a bit senseless when I already blocked him and told him the last day we talked"

Maybe he just wanted to have the last word, maybe he wanted to hurt you, maybe the new gf made him do it. You're right that its senseless, but a guy who was trying to juggle 3 women at once doesn't show a lot of concern for any of them, or very good judgement either. Just continue to move forward with your life and try to stop thinking about him and why he does the things that he does.

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Registered: 11-21-2012
Wed, 04-10-2013 - 1:27pm

So, you blocked him and now you are upset because he did the same thing.  You are not making any sense.  So what if he did block you it doesn't matter.  You need to get your head on straight, forget about that guy and just move on. 

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Registered: 08-17-2007
Fri, 04-19-2013 - 12:06pm

Agree with Confoundedbridge!