He broke up with me, again

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Registered: 03-29-2007
He broke up with me, again
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 7:53am
Hi, I've dating him for almost 2 years, apparently everything was great until we had a huge fight 2 months ago, he broke up with me saying we had different personalities and no future, but he wanted to be still friends, that I was his best friend and he kept calling everyday, we started going out again and without talking about it, we went back together. After that, if he have an argument, he would say that it'll be better to break up, anyway he just broke up with me AGAIN yesterday, and again he said the BS about friendship and how great of a person I am, but that his feelings had change and he's not the same guy that was deeply crazy about me, etc.. he asked me to call him today, to hung around, like friends... I'm devastated again, not as much as 2 months ago though, I keep thinking what went wrong, he treated me like a princess, he didn't flirt with other girls, never cheated on me, etc... yet again, I guess he just stopped loving me. I don't know if I should do the "friends" game.
please send me your comments about this!!

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Registered: 03-29-2007
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 5:57pm
I can't believe I wrote this almost 2 months ago and I'm still healing and thinking about him .. well I little recap.. finally I accepted to be friends and would get together around twice a week, just like friends, I wouldn't ask him to take me back and just played cool.. everything was going great and just when I thought I was over him.. he told me he'd broken up with me because he had feelings for this girl he met at work.. this was exactly 2 weeks ago, I didn't go into drama on the phone and we hang up like usual, but right after, I sent him an email explaining him why he shouldn't contact me ever again... and he hasn't, I know it's useless to call him and try to change his mind, it'll just make myslelf feel worse to hear how fabulous his new life is with this new girlfriend.. now I just have this insane fantasy: I expect him to come back (ok, I'm crazy) crawling and I'll say no, I don't want you anymore.. is that healthy???
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Registered: 03-27-2007
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 9:18pm

yeah that's healthy. it's just part of the process. if you asked everyone who posts here they'd tell you the same thing. we've all had the fantasy of the ex coming crawling back and us looking fabulous and feeling great and rejecting them as we feel they rejected us. and just having that sense of control.

but you know what, it's only part of the healing process. you'll know you've truly moved on when you don't even think about that anymore. and when him coming back or not has no significance in your life, positive or negative.

i wish i was there but i'm not.

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