He broke up with me, now what

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Registered: 12-15-2004
He broke up with me, now what
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Wed, 12-15-2004 - 8:30pm
Right after Thanksgiving my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. I didn't see it coming at all. And now I don't know what to do. This is my first big breakup and I just feel lost. I mean we spent Thanksgiving with his family and we were supposed to spend part of Christmas with mine. Now I'm just depressed and I don't feel very holiday-ish at all. I'm supposed to go to a holiday party this weekend and I will now be the only single person there. He gave me numerous reasons for why he broke up with me. However, my family and friends think that he's trying to make me feel like it was my fault that he broke up with me, by giving me all these various examples of why it wasn't working. But I just don't know, I've never felt like this before. Any advice for a fairly fresh break up?
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 9:03pm
Welcome to the board!! I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup...I know it really stink esp around the holidays. The best advice I can offer is to have no contact with him and to STAY BUSY!! I suggest the no contact because if you're communicating, it's harder to move on and you hold on to the hope of a reconciliation longer and I reccomend staying busy (which really shouldn't be too hard during the holidays with all the events going on) just to help take your mind off things and so you aren't moping around. We're all here if you need to talk. Good luck and keep us posted!!











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