He Broke Up with Me
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He Broke Up with Me
| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 7:46pm |
He broke up with me a month ago yesterday and I am still confused about the whole thing. He told me he still loved me and was still in love with me and that he cared about me but still broke up with me. We didn't have any really big problems and nothing that was wrong wasn't something that couldn't be fixed. I am miserable, lonely, depressed, sad. I want him back and just don't know how to do it. The pain is suffocating and my heart is shattered. I cry myself to sleep most nights and hardly get a decent nights sleep. I can't go on like this. I go over the last time I saw him in my head all the time. I blame myself for everything since I don't have any other answers. Some one help me! I can't take the pain anymore!

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But, no, he tells you he loves you! How are you supposed to process this? You're not. And none of this is your fault. He is not worthy of you. Do you hear me? He is not good enough for you!
Right now, you're thinking, "Right, Lady. I'm totally, completely, and irrevocably in love with this guy, and HE LOVES ME! How am I supposed to get over a break-up with someone who loves me? We belong together!"
Yeah, well, that would be my response, too, but this guy is not playing fair with you. I once had a guy do a similar thing to me, and I spent many sleepless nights trying to wrap my head around it. The bottom line is, I never could. (And, now 14 years later, I’m married to a fantastic guy who worships the ground I walk on.)
Please do yourself a favor: Every time this guy's face pops into your head, every time you're tempted to replay a scene between you, banish the thought. Think of something else. Go for a walk. Put on your favorite CD. Anything!
Treat yourself extremely kindly. Buy yourself something wonderful. Get a makeover. Do whatever it takes to help you feel good about yourself. You deserve to feel good about yourself!
You owe it to yourself to move on. You will not believe this now, but this ridiculous experience will make you stronger. You will meet somebody who will love you as you deserve to be loved, and you will be happy.
And the guy who dumped you? Well, he’ll wake up one morning and realize that he threw away the best thing that ever happened to him.
Lady, I don't have a very good advice for you but I just want you to know that I am going through the same heartbreaking emotional roller coast as you and many other ladies here too. It's a very tough time but I believe that sooner or later, I will get over him (heartless SOB) as I am determined to do so for the sake of my daughter who is coming to 5. I hope that you will be strong and occupy your time with your favorite things to do...
care about. You are concnetrating on all the positives and that is
normal BUT you have to think about why it ended. He says he loves
you but doesnt want a relationship which isnt fair. do you think
he will be receptive to you trying to get him back? If yes then
why not try ONCE but if you think he may not want you to push then dont.
If he rejects you will just feel worse and that wont help you.
Maybe take some time to think aobut you instead of him, that
usually help. Time does heal and you deserve to be happy. Take
care and good luck
Trish
You don't know me, but I'm thinking of you and pulling for you. I once read an Ann Landers column, where she counseled a woman who'd been broken up with in a similar manner to give herself 48 hours to grieve, and then to get on with her life.
It sounded a little harsh to me at the time, but I tried it once--banishing all thoughts of the guy after that 48 hours, and it did get easier. Eventually, I stopped loving him. Became indifferent.
Saw him on the street years later and didn't know what I'd ever seen in him. I was completely out of his league, and he knew it.
I felt sorry for him.
Please be good to yourself.
I know we do not know each other but it does help to know that some one out there is on my side and knows how this feels. And although I don't know your situation, I am here wishing, praying and hoping that one day you will find what you are looking for.
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