He Broke My heart....

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Registered: 02-09-2007
He Broke My heart....
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Fri, 02-09-2007 - 5:16pm
I dont think he loves me anymore. I been with my boyfriend for almost four years and i love him so much and i dont think he loves me back. He tells me that im fat and ugly and i only weigh 125 lbs. It hurts cause i remember when he adored me so much and wanted to be with me all the time, and when i bring that up he say he dont remember.He told me his family dont like me thats why he wont bring me around them. Its just so much problems he have with me and i dont know if i can deal with it. I stop hanging out for him cause i wanted him to take us serious. We chatted online today i told him i never knew you would talk down about me. And all he say is Ok and it was fun and have a nice life and see you around. Im so sad i really thought he loved me alot. but i was wrong. I dont know how will i get over him. I thought we was going to be together for a long time. I really hate love this is the third time i got my heart broken. Maybe im not suppose to be in love with a good man. Most of my ex got married, so then it has to be me. Im the one with the problem...
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 6:42pm

Welcome to the board sexygt29 - There is nothing wrong with you if he's verbally abusing you, criticizing you and putting you down. And that's NOT love.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 7:12pm

to be honest we both have same question...IS IT ME OR THEM(EX'S)??...

well maybe we do have some sort of problem that we need to improved before we could be in a relationship again right??

me i will admit that i'm a jealous type of person...so i need to work on that...

or maybe we haven't really met MR.RIGHT...LOL

good luck!!

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 10:17am

Please don't blame yourself or think you have a problem because 9 times out of 10 that is not the case for us women who are left with a broken heart. My ex did the disappearing act almost 8 months ago and it took me a long time to realize he has the issues, I DON'T and that him leaving was a blessing in disguise but I would never tell him that. Take this time to write down the positives and negatives about your ex and see what you come up with. I did this right after my break up and saw that my ex had a page and a half of negatives and 4 positives. I would look at those negatives everytime I would get upset over him and it actually helped my healing process. Broken hearts stink but they can be healed and yours will too.

Take Care!

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:23pm
I can tell you its not you!! He had the issue. No one should ever talk to their partner in that way, its not healthy. I am just getting out of a long term relationsip and I know it is hard, but he never belittled me with words. You need to look at yourself and be secure with who you are. I am taking time to do that myself. Of course we all make mistakes in relationships, but you can't make another person love you back. I am currently reading "Better Single than Sorry" by Jen Schefft. It gives some good advice on being happy and not needing a relationship to fullfill you.
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Registered: 01-29-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 8:33am
Hey Sexygt29,
I'm sorry you're going through this, it completely blows. And I'm sure it doesn't seem like it right now, but at some point, once you've distanced yourself from him and this relationship a bit, you will be able to clearly see that he is mean. I can see it by reading what you've written, but it's easier for me because I'm on the outside. Whether he loves you or not is irrelevant when you consider he's just mean and he is mean to you. I will hate him for you until you are able to do so yourself :)
It'll be tough, but you'll get through it, and when the next guy treats you better, you'll be so glad this guy is out of the picture.
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Registered: 02-09-2007
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 2:13pm
wow you put a smile on my face when you said you will hate him for me. im trying but i will get through his. hopefully he can see what he is losing and if he cant then oh well.