he called - ACK!!!

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Registered: 04-25-2005
he called - ACK!!!
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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 4:54pm

Okay guys. I'm back. I figure this will be and up and down kind of a thing? I had been having a horrible time sleeping Wensday night so drank some wine to relax. Which helped (btw don't worry I'm not using alcohol to drown my sorrows, I drink wine with dinner and sometimes music). I actually could not stop thinking about him (remember I'm at the beach housesitting) enough so that it kept me up during the night/kept waking me up. I had mad crazy dreams and thoughts. Finally fell asleep. Thursday, I'm doing fine. Doing my thing then around four, he calls - then calls again out of the blue(I have him on mute so I didn't hear but got the messages). I am floored and shocked. I knew I'd get a call from him in the next coupla weeks - he had said he would call before I went on vacation to touch bases, so I was prepared for this but I wasn't prepared for this call a mere day after the girl who was visiting leaves town! HUGE GRRRRR.

Left two messages. First call, asked me how I was doing - small talk - second time (within minutes) calls me and tells me I have some important mail (tax and dmv stuff - i changed my address so...) and he'll be working (he works less than a mile away from my place but doesn't know exactly where I live but knows i'm close as i've always loved this area) that night and he could either drop the mail by or I can drop by and pick it up.

I told him on Friday (if you recall he called me to get some mail) that if anything else came that he should just put return to sender on the front.

I didn't return the call. Don't plan to.

It's just aggravating I guess now. I think eventually he'll get the hint that he screwed up and we're done - even as friends...I went back and read some of the stuff he sent me while we were breaking up - and it angered me. How dare he proclaim his love to me but continue on with her? It doesn't set me back. I'm not sad or anything. I want to continue going forward in my healing. Another question.

If the calls continue - should I just tell him not to contact me again? Or should I just keep ignoring them? I assume that eventually they'll stop right? Ack! Just when I started to move forward and get settled with things, he moved in so quickly. Some sort of crazy radar.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
In reply to: menky
Fri, 04-29-2005 - 9:57pm
I say if the calls continue, call when he is unlikely to pick up and remind him you said if anything else came that he should just put return to sender on the front and that you would appreciate him not calling over matters that he has been told how to handle. Ignore the chitty chat call entirely. If he picks up, don't get chatty, don't get friendly, just keep it cool and civil and you'll be fine.