he called me .........

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Registered: 03-27-2006
he called me .........
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:35pm
Well the other night i got a phone call and it was Sam ........ He called to see what i was doing and if i wanted to hang out also to tell me that he wanted ..... (use your imagination) lol ..... i told him that i was going to do that b/c that would make my head messed up and i asked him what would we be tomrrow just go back to being friends and he's like yeah and im like what friends with benefits .... im like didnt you see that true likfe episode IT DOESNT WORK OUT ...... He was also like you looked good today ( he looked at my car that morning cuz the breaks were sweaking) and i said thanks all i was wearing was jeans flip flops and a zip-up sweater .... ( but they were my best butt jeans and cutest top lol) gotta make him see what he's missing yah know... so he told me that he was going go and eat dinner at ten oclock at night .... well it was around like 12 at night and he still hadn't called so i said screw it maybe he fell asleep and went to bed .... but i still havent heard from him .... ive called him a couple of times oh well im not going to worry about it if he calls he calls .........
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Registered: 01-31-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:48pm

HI FAIRY

I MEAN DONT GET ME WRONG ITS PRETTY OBS THAT YOUR EXBF ONLY WANT SEX. YOU DIDNT LET HIM SO HE DIDNT SHOW AT YOUR DINNER AND DONT ANSWER YOUR PHONE CALLS.

COZ FOR MY OWN OPINION IF YOUR EXBF CALL YOU AT THE FIRST TIME SINCE THE BREAK UP. I THINK HE WILL NEVER BRING UP ABOUT SEX IF HE HAS RESPECT FOR YOU AND LOVES YOU.

WELL THIS ALL UP TO YOU. IF YOU END UP HAVING SEX WITH HIM AGAIN WITHOUT COMMITEMENT. YOU WILL REGRET LATER AND FEEL USED. ITS JUST ONE OF THE IVILLAGER POSTED HER STORY HERE. THAT SHE END UP HAVING SEX WITH THE EXBF AND AFTER THAT HIS GONE.

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 03-27-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:40pm
well it wasnt the first phone call that i got from him ...... we had talked before and that morning he helped me out with my car ... at first he just wanted to hang out and i was like sure then he was like im Horny and thats when i said what do u want me to do about it ? and i told him that i wasnt going to do that b/c it would mess with my head ....and we joked about it .. and my dad is going to apologize to him for the way taht he acted.. Sam talked to my mom the other day and said that he isnt' ready for a relationship and i completly understand that i mean he needs to do him for a while ... but i think that eventually he will come around .... maybe this summer will be different maybe we'll hang out i invited him to my dad's 60th b-day party and he said that he'd come although it's not untill July lol .. all we can do is wait and see what happens if were ment to be then we'll be toghter if not then we wont
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Registered: 01-31-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:31pm

just a friendly advised "please be careful with your heart"...like they SAY love is good in second around BUT IF YOU BREAK UP AGAIN IS 3X HURT THAN THE FIRST ONE.

LIKE YOU MENTION HE SAID HIS NOT READY FOR RELATIONSHIP. BUT HE WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU. I MEAN FOR ME IT DOESNT SOUND GOOD AT ALL. I MEAN DONT GET ME WRONG I'M A TYPE OF PERSON ALWAY ADVISED TO FIGHT FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP...BUT ONLY IF THERE IS A REASON FOR THEM TO STAY RIGHT?

AT YOUR SITUATION YOU MIGHT END UP HURT AND YOU DONT WANT THAT. WHAT ABOUT YOU END UP HAVING SEX WITH HIM AND HE GET YOU PREGNANT. I HOPE HE WILL BE THERE FOR THE BABY.

I KNOW YOUR THINKING I'M SO WRONG...I'M JUST CONCERNED AND I HOPING THAT YOU WONT END UP GETTING HURT.

WELL YOUR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT IF YOU GUYS MEANT TO BE...YOU ARE REALLY FOR EACH OTHER. WELL JUST MAKE A SMART DESICION. THIS ALL FOR YOUR OWN GOOD AND HAPPINESS!

GOOD LUCK DEAR

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Registered: 03-27-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 5:27pm

Yeah but there is no chance of him getting me pregnet .... i am on BC i told him that wasn't going to have a friends with benfits kind of realtionshp.... well i said that i wasnt going to have sex with him b/c that would mess me up ... well your advice is greatly apprecated ... thanks for all the feedback and help ! ! ! :o)

Brandi

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 7:52pm
SMART CHOICE MY DEAR..KEEP IT UP!