He called me last night/Please help
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| Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:42pm |
My ex called me out of the blue last night..I missed the call (which is a good thing). Anyway, when I saw that I had a missed call and voice mail from him my heart did back flips. Even though I'm trying to move on it seems like, in the back of my mind, I've been waiting for that call ever since we broke up. Dumb, huh? Anyway, I waited to call him back for a couple of hours (I was having dinner with family). I seriously debated not calling him back, too. We haven't talked in almost 2 weeks and since he broke up with me I don't see any point in me calling him back. I slipped though and called him. He didn't answer, and he didn't call back.
I'm not really asking for advice on this..I knew better than to call him back. I just wanted to vent a little. I really wasn't expecting my heart to have such a strong reaction to his phone call.
I still miss him, and I would love to work things out; but I know better than to count on this.
There's a chance that I might run into him today. I've got plans to go see a mutual friend of ours. The problem is she works in a cafe in the same building he works in. I usually do not go there to see her, but she asked me this weekend to stop by and talk to her today. (I don't live in the same town my friend does, and I'm going to be in her town today.) Should I go see her at work or wait until she gets off work? (It's easier to stop by the cafe.) I don't want it to look like I'm going so that I can try and run into him since he called last night. I don't ever want him to know how much I really miss him or that his phone call makes my heart go so crazy.
My brain is still out of wack from the phone call. I know to put distance between us, but it is wrong to completely avoid going around our friends.
Please, help.
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I would meet your friend elsewhere. For the time being, it's best to avoid running into him.
Have you asked your ex not to contact you unless he is 110% serious about getting back together? If he's a good guy, he'll respect your wishes.
Sheri
hi mannie
well its better that you go and see your friend anyways. so what incase he'll see you there..just a friendly suggestion go there and look pretty. about the phone call he didnt pick up coz i'm assuming you were taking too long to call back and didnt pick his call in purposed(maybe he think that way)he feel bad. so he want you to feel same thing too!
why dont you try calling him again coz atleast he call you first right...he put his ego down and atleast put yours down too!!!
i mean it been two weeks only i guess both of you still have that feeling to each other...as soon as passible FIX THAT PROBLEM..DONT LET YOUR EGO CONTROL YOU. IN RELATIONSHIP ATLEAST ONE OF YOU NEED TO GO DOWN AND IT DOESNT MATTER WHO DOES IT ALL THE TIME.
WELL I GUESS ALL YOUR ADVISE IS TO HAVE BROKEN HEART...
WHAT DO YOU MEAN IF HIS A GOOD GUY AND HE'LL RESPECT HER WISHES.
SO YOU WERE TELLING HER HE'LL STAY FOR HER COZ HE WANT TO BE GOOD ONLY....
ISN'T BETTER EVEN SHE DIDNT WISH HIM TO STAY...HE'LL STAY FOR HER COZ HE LOVES HER AND THEY BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER.
I'm not sure I fully understand your point, sorry. What I said to the OP was to ask her ex to contact her IF and only if he was fully committed to getting back together but to otherwise leave her alone so she can heal. A good guy would absolutely respect that request and only contact her if he was serious about trying again. It does her no good to hear from him if he's not interested in getting back together with her...it just prolongs the recovery process.
Sheri
Thanks for your response. I didn't end up going to see my friend at work. I went over to her house instead. She and husband were cooking steaks and they invited me over. The only catch..my ex was there. I almost didn't go because I didn't want it to look like I was chasing after him. Anyway, my friend's husband had a good point..'we're all adults and we should all be able to have dinner together.' I went and it was fun. My ex was so sweet..when I got there he gave me great big hugs and when I left he told me how much he missed me and (I'll admit) we kissed. I didn't go home with him, though. I refuse to be his FWB. He also told me that he was looking for jobs in a town 250 miles away! So there's a chance that he might be moving soon. Not sure what-if anything-has changed between us. I still love him, and I would love to see him again; but I'm not holding my breath or anything. We'll take baby-steps. He might have just been nice to me hoping to get into my pants or he might have really missed me-maybe both. I'm just gonna play it by ear. I mean if he really is moving 250 miles away what does it matter anyway? I'm going to call him later today and see what he's got going on for the weekend. I'm not going to push anything, but he told me he missed my phone calls; so I'm going to check it out and see if he answers or what. After everything that he said I feel comfortable calling. If he doesn't respond then I'll know that he just wanted to get in my pants the other night, and I won't call again. Any input?
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yah why not call him...i dont think he just want that it seem to me that he still cares about you...look if a guy dont want to be with you. i dont think they end up having sex with you. coz isnt they will feel nasty just like us ladys if we dont like the guy and we end up having sex isnt we feel nasty.
so stop being negative...good luck