He called my PARENTS

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Registered: 02-11-2007
He called my PARENTS
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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 1:03pm

Hi everyone,

If you've read my last post, you know that I broke it off with my ex-fiance on Tuesday. He has a temper/anger management problem and also was instrumental in triggering anorexia, as well as just overall making me feel like a terrible human being. Since I have broken it off, I have been eating more, sleeping more, and have been so much more happy and healthy. It truly is amazing, the difference.

He, however, has emerged as the monster I guess he always was. Sending me emails littered with profanities and insults, discussing how much "help" I need to get for my "issues," ignoring the fact that he owes me $1000, so forth. I've just ignored this in the hopes that he will calm down and send me my money. Last night, he sent an email, which I didn't even read, and called, leaving a voicemail which I promptly deleted without listening to.

Then he called my parent's house! My mother answered and said he sounded highly emotional, almost manic, saying, "I just wanted to let you know I loved your daughter, I'm not dating any other women, they're just friends , your daughter needs help" etc etc etc with negative stuff about me. I couldn't believe the audacity! I think my mother was in shock, too. She said it sounded like he was driving. Apparently she was nice to him, which bothers me, but she just told him, "OK, uh, everything is gonna be ok" over and over, until he hung up.

What a total nutcase! At this point, I don't WANT my money back, I WANT him to leave me and my family alone! I was half-tempted to call him and tell him to leave us all alone, but I knew that would result in an argument with him, in which I would somehow be the one to blame and the one who needs "help" for my "issues."

What can I do?! Just ignore it? I told my mother if he calls again, to simply tell him not to call anymore, and hang up. My mother has the perennial too-nice disease. She does agree that he's a jerk, though, and she was so relieved when I broke it off with him because she could see he was terrible for me.




Edited 2/16/2008 1:12 pm ET by timeofbutterflies
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 2:20pm

you can threaten him with a restraining order...and follow thru if he does not stop. If you think that is a course of action you may want to take now or in the future, you should save those emails and voice mails to use for purpose of obtaining one. I would hang on to them until you are sure he is not going to get worse with the harrassment and has left all of you alone.


Good luck

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Registered: 01-05-2008
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 10:01pm
did u cancel the cell phone?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:07pm
Cancel the phone. Talk to management about the gate opener, etc. Block emails.