he cheated but...

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Registered: 11-15-2004
he cheated but...
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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 1:37am
okay, i have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months. he went out of town this past weekend and one of my friends told me that he had cheated on me about 2 months ago. initially i was shocked, then a bit sad, and now im really not that pissed off about it (i know i'm weird, but it's true). the thing is that when i confronted him about it he got incredibly angry and he will not talk to me. he got in contact with the guy who told me and went nuts on him. i am so confused about how he is acting, he still won't speak to me and it has been 4 days (he has extended his trip). he has told our friends that he loves me so much, etc...so why is he still not getting in touch with me when he knows im not going to go ballistic on him? any insight would be appreciated.
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Registered: 07-26-2004
Mon, 11-15-2004 - 3:44am
O.K. Let me get this straight, he cheated on you and he's ANGRY at YOU???!!! If he's doing ANYTHING but groveling and crying for forgiveness, you need to run as fast as you can away from this JERK!! Even then, cheaters are great at groveling long enough to get you back so they can cheat on you again. Please, it will be painful, but you must end this now when you "only" have nine months invested. The pain WILL END and you'll look back and be glad you showed the strength and self-respect it will take to leave someone who thinks so little of you. If you take him back after what he's done (and is doing), you are teaching him that you have no respect for yourself, that you have low standards, and that he can cheat on you over and over and over and over and over...and you will still take him back. Be stronger than that!! You DO NOT NEED HIM! and you DO NOT NEED his lying and cheating!! Build your own life and your own self-esteem and DITCH THIS JERK!! I am getting mad now, so I will stop. I mean it...you are asking for unbelievable heart ache if you continue with this guy! Leave and don't look back. In a few months you'll be amazed how good you feel. Good luck...
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Registered: 11-15-2004
Mon, 11-15-2004 - 12:39pm
thanks for taking the time to reply to my post, and yes you are right. i mostly was just expressing how boggled i was by his reaction, wondering if anyone else had ever had that happen? i do appreciate the support though. :)