he doesn't think we should break up

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Registered: 06-16-2006
he doesn't think we should break up
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 10:08am
i've decided i need to end things with my boyfriend of a year and a half. we've lived together for a year and 5 times i've caught him having profiles on adultfriendfinder, true.com, alt.com, etc. (the first time i caught him was purely accidental but raised my suspicions enough to keep me checking back). he either says he won't do it again (which he does) or he lies and denies that they're his although its obvious with is b-day, zip code, height, screen name, etc. so anyway, our lease isn't up for another 3 months and i have already told him we should jsut break up and move out because i no longer have any intimate feelings for him after everything, and he just disagrees. why can't he just confess and realize that it's for the best? if i can't trust him now i would never be able to marry him so its not worth it. he just makes me feel like the bad guy when i try to end it, i hate that! anyone been in a similar situation before? this would be way easier if we didn't live togther.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 1:06pm

boston9...

Pianoguy suggests you "settle your debts and split!"

3 months of miserable co-habitation is a lousy trade-off! Especially if you can obtain "peace of mind" within a week or less!

Just be certain that when you DO leave...you don't waste your time "looking back" at what your EX B/F may or may not be doing...and with whom!

Good Luck

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-25-2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:15pm

Why does it matter what he thinks? If you want to break up, then do it. Why should you care how he feels about your decision when he doesn't care about respecting you? Having profiles up on all those sites is so rude and inappropriate in a relationship. I'm amazed you stayed with him this long!

Unless you absolutely cannot afford to do so, I say find a new apt asap and move out -- no need to drag this out for another 3 months.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 5:20pm

....."why can't he just confess and realize that it's for the best?"..... Why do you need him to?

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