He dumps me and is trying to contact me!
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| Sun, 11-21-2004 - 11:55pm |
HEY!
I'm back!!!!! Well, I've been broken up with my ex for a month now .. and about two weeks ago I told him I couldn't EVER be his friend because he's a lying jerk! LOL Anyways .. so we hadn't talked AT ALL in the past two weeks .. I deleted him from my MSN list, so I never see when he's on .. anyways .. tonight I get an MSN message from him trying to talk to me .. why the hell does he still want me in his life or want to know about my life, if we aren't going to be together? I don't get it. One of his close friends always asks me qusetions about my life too .. and I know it's all going back to him .. so like why the hell won't he just go away like I told him to? Why is he trying to talk to me .. the point of getting him out of my life all together was to get over him and move on .. and PS. Did I mention he's a jerk? Any advice would be great! Thanks!
Lynne

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I feel the same way too! I told my ex last night that he was being selfish by contacting me. That's when he told me I sounded bitter and that he should go. But I know I'm right. He didn't contact me to make me feel better - he wanted to make sure that I was okay so he could stop feeling guilty. He said that he still cares for me, but wonders why I think it's better to have nothing than the stupid "friendly" conversations. How does he expect me to go from being his girlfriend, to telling me I'm not the one, then IM buddies??
Ok, I still need to let go of the anger, but atleast I'm taking it out on the board instead. Atleast I understand what's going on and will hopefully be able to move on soon. I hope for the best for you too.
Hi,
Just my $.02 but I agree with Sheri (northwesterner). I believe the guy is calling you to ensure you are 'still there for him' if things don't work out with his current situation. As Sheri put it, he has put you on the back burner. He keeps calling because he knows that if he stops, you will be able to get over him quicker. The same thing happened to me and I continued to be his friend even though I knew no contact was the way to go but I couldn't let go. Three weeks ago I finally told him that I would no longer answer any of his calls or emails. It was very hard at first but now it's much easier. I feel like every day I think of him less than the day before. Good luck to you. Lucy
All of the posts I have read on this topic have really made me understand a lot more why ex's just don't go away after they dump you! My ex is still trying to contact me and I'm just not responding anyway. It is so hard because once you are starting to feel better and get over the person, they just reappear when they feel like it. I'm going to stay strong and not talk to him. I know that it's driving him crazy that I won't talk to him, but that's not my problem. He hurt me and he's the one who can live with that, while I start to move on. Thanks again everyone!
Lynne
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