He Ended our Relationship Through Email
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He Ended our Relationship Through Email
| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 9:38am |
My story is in my first post...."Death od Ex Girlfriend." He sent me an email last night ending our relationship. He said that there was something that just wasn't right between us. This is news to me! He also said, "sorry about the love stuff, if my feelings were genuine I never would have treated you this way." This is a man who pursued me ARDENTLY professing his life long love to me and plans for the future...then once he got me and I gave my heart to him (I gave up everything to be with him...he lived in England and me in the States)...he ran the other way. He tells me that it wasn't just the death of the girlfriend...that he felt smothered and he wanted to be single. I feel like it was all a lie. I feel so totally rejected. I can't even pick myself up off the ground. My heart is shattered in a million pieces! How can someone pour on the love then do a 360 like that and turn the other way! He had sabotaged our relationship before I even got there! He says he wants excitement etc. No one could meet his expectations...they are completely unrealistic! I think he is a commitment phobic. It was just hard for me tell because the death overshadowed everything. I guess I should have seen the writing on the wall...he was in two long relationships but he cheated on both of them. When I look back I can see ways that he sabotaged our relationship. He lied about things, hid things, almost made it so I would find out!!!! Dear God! I don't think anything has ever caused me so much pain. I may need professional help to make it through this. Please...I need help/advice. I am in SO MUCH PAIN!!!!!!!!!!!! Definitely hit rock bottom! HELP PLEASE!!!

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(((HUGS))) This is a natural reaction when you get your heart broken. You'll go through several emotions before it gets better. Right now, you are hurt.
Look for that professional help.
Wow. Good for you. I really mean that, because he sounds like someone who doesn't have any healthy relationships and probably gets a kick out of the drama or something. Glad you blocked his email.
I know it probably hurts a lot, but don't get sucked back in by him, no matter what he does. He sounds... mentally unbalanced. Maybe he's bipolar. What I mean is, you don't sound like that at all.
You probably feel like crap right now, but I swear you WILL get over this. And you'll probably laugh at this, because you'll have moved on, and he'll probably just find some girl just as mentally unbalanced as he is to torture.
"Wherever you go, go with all your heart." -Confucius
*hugz* email break up is really really rough. But I'll hope you'll come to see it in a two ways in the near future. 1. It speaks more of his character than of yours (I think you have that covered) and 2. It prevented you from jumping on him and throttling the life out of him.
*hugz again*
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
Yeah- my ex bf said he loved me 2 hours before he broke up with me. When I asked him why he kept saying he loved me, he wanted to work it out, and talked about having kids with me just a few hours before....he said and I quote: "I was confused. When I left the house after our date to think about things- I was leaning toward YES. When I got back home, I was leaning more toward NO." (Mind you- he left because the other girl called him. I guess she un-confused him.)
I don't understand how they can do that either, litgirl!
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