He Ended our Relationship Through Email

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Registered: 03-07-2008
He Ended our Relationship Through Email
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 9:38am
My story is in my first post...."Death od Ex Girlfriend." He sent me an email last night ending our relationship. He said that there was something that just wasn't right between us. This is news to me! He also said, "sorry about the love stuff, if my feelings were genuine I never would have treated you this way." This is a man who pursued me ARDENTLY professing his life long love to me and plans for the future...then once he got me and I gave my heart to him (I gave up everything to be with him...he lived in England and me in the States)...he ran the other way. He tells me that it wasn't just the death of the girlfriend...that he felt smothered and he wanted to be single. I feel like it was all a lie. I feel so totally rejected. I can't even pick myself up off the ground. My heart is shattered in a million pieces! How can someone pour on the love then do a 360 like that and turn the other way! He had sabotaged our relationship before I even got there! He says he wants excitement etc. No one could meet his expectations...they are completely unrealistic! I think he is a commitment phobic. It was just hard for me tell because the death overshadowed everything. I guess I should have seen the writing on the wall...he was in two long relationships but he cheated on both of them. When I look back I can see ways that he sabotaged our relationship. He lied about things, hid things, almost made it so I would find out!!!! Dear God! I don't think anything has ever caused me so much pain. I may need professional help to make it through this. Please...I need help/advice. I am in SO MUCH PAIN!!!!!!!!!!!! Definitely hit rock bottom! HELP PLEASE!!!

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Registered: 03-02-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:26pm
I agree!
I, too, may have to move back home because of him...so sad! The sadder thing (yet a LITTLE bit rewarding- LOL) is that they will just do it to the next girl and the next, and probably will never learn.
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Registered: 03-07-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:35pm
Yes they will do it to the next person....my ex has done to all of his ex women!
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Registered: 03-02-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:39pm

haha! me too! I don't know the details about the exes, but from what I do know- definitely true! He even told me that he lies to everyone, but not to me (in the beginning) because I really cared about him and he didn't have anyone else like that in his life (I WONDER WHY?!)

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:47pm
Ok...NEXT TIME we won't ignore the signs that someone is a psycho just because we are attracted to them and they "sweet talk" us! Hindsight is 20/20 isn't it!!! lol We are much smarter than that now!!!! God help us!! lol
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Registered: 03-02-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:49pm
haha! Yes we ARE much stronger...I beat down so many red flags that I must have red ink all over me! No more being blinded by the red ink as we push the red flags to the ground!!! =) We shall see warning signs and say, "Howdy there Mr. Red Flag. Nice to meet you. I have to get going now." LOL! (if that makes sense)
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Registered: 03-07-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:28pm
Just remember the consequences..I surely don't want to feel like this anymore! See a red flag...and RUN the other way! I don't care how attracted you are! LOL
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Registered: 03-09-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 5:08pm

Hi ephflank,


First of all *HUGS*.

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