He is engaged already

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Registered: 05-18-2007
He is engaged already
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:11pm

Yesterday I found out my ex boyfriend who I was living with for a year is engaged to his ex girlfrend. Even though he and I have only been broken up offically for 4 months, I was the idiot that kept sleeping with him until about 1 1/2 months ago, and now I found out he got engaged to his ex girlfriend that he was been back and forth with 4 times around the same time we were still sleeping together. And when I confronted him about the engagement he had the nerve to lie about it.

And to make it worse he and I work together. How am I ever suppose to get over this. I was just starting to fell OK about the break up but now this. And he has the nerve to tell me to relax and stop saying mean things to him that I don't really mean. The thing is, I think I really do mean them. I just want to pick up and leave. What the hell do I do now.

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Registered: 05-10-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:33pm
Oh honey, I am so so sorry. Can't offer any advice, but wish I knew what to say.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:51pm
You can't do anything now, unless you can transfer to another job or different location. Is that possible? If it isn't, then your going to have to deal with things, until seeing him, doesn't hurt or make you sick. I can say this, you are so lucky, your not the female he's engaged too. I really feel sorry for her, because she just doesn't know how he played her. I promise you, at the end of this, you will be the one standing strong, and laughing at both of them. The marriage won't work out, and he's a cheater. You are blessed, God, worked out things for you, so you won't get hurt anymore from him. I know you don't see it or understand, because everything is kinda fresh. But I promise you when it's all over and you moved on, you will see how better your life will be, without him. Try to ignore him at work if you can. I know it won't be easy, but you have to go thru some pain, in order to be stronger, and move on to the next man in your life. This is all a learning experience, that will make you stronger, and you will be helping others. Good luck
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:19pm
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Registered: 05-18-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:39pm
Thank you so much for your response. It is nice to hear some words of encouragement. And that is what I need now to make it through this. It is hard at work because I am a firefighter and work with all guys and it is hard for them to understand my pain or see what I am going through. I wish I could pick up and leave jobs but at this time it is just too hard. Thanks again.
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Registered: 04-30-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 11:33am
I agree with what dev says.. Feel more sorry for the other girl because she will be the one getting the most hurt at the end. Are you able to get another job? He sounds like no good, sorry to see he did that too you. :/