He got over me

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Registered: 05-29-2005
He got over me
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Sun, 05-29-2005 - 1:34pm
My ex-husband and I had been together four and a half years, and when it was great, it was amazingly great, but he had a drug problem that we were trying to work through, and it got to a point where he just didn't want to work at it anymore. Drugs and his friends were more important to him than me and his son. So I left. We divorced, but we stayed on good terms. We were still friends. He told he still had feelings for me and I couldn't help hoping that he would miss us so much that it would give him the drive to fix his life and we could get our family back together.
A few weeks ago, it looked like that was going to happen. I was so happy. But then we had an argument over his visitation with our son. At the same time, a girl that we work with (We work at the same place) interfered. He had turned her down several times before, but they were still friends and had been hanging out with each other a lot, and because he was angry with me, he accepted her this time.
They have now moved in together and I saw them together for the first time at work a few days ago. She was dropping him off, and they were laughing and he was running his fingers through her hair, just like he used to do to mine. Then they hugged and kissed good-bye. They didn't know I had seen and I wanted to look away, but I couldn't. Oh, the pain was exquisite. The irony is painful, too. Now that he's becoming the man I always needed him to be, he wants to be with someone else.
I'm afraid that I will never be able to get over him and move on. I'm afraid that I will never find a love that great ever again. The thought of never being able to share long conversations with him, or make good memories with him or kiss him ever again makes me so sad. Does time heal all wounds?
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Registered: 05-06-2003
In reply to: miechke
Sun, 05-29-2005 - 2:30pm

Welcome...


It sounds like you're having a really rough time right now and I'm so sorry for that!


To answer your question- time *does* heal all wounds, but unfortunately not as quickly as we'd like!

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"You get what you settle for"...

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Registered: 08-18-2004
In reply to: miechke
Sun, 05-29-2005 - 5:30pm

Hey,
Not sure if it's time or your survival instinct. But yes, there will come a time when your memories will be dimmer and hurt less. I think all of us who have felt deeply about someone and "lost" them can relate to that.

Some days I still think of my ex. The one lesson is that you cannot make someone love you the way you wnat them to. They either will or they won't. Don't think about the "better" him for someone else. Rather think about the "better" him for your son and what that means.

Take care.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: miechke
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 6:32pm
(((Hugs)))
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Registered: 06-18-2004
In reply to: miechke
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 11:39pm

I'm not sure if time heals *all* wounds. I do believe, however, that what time does... if you allow it... is make you a wiser person. And the pain will lessen.

A~