He Had a Date

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Registered: 01-07-2004
He Had a Date
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 12:57pm

So maybe it wasn't an all out date - just meeting up for drinks with a girl. The hard part is, I know this girl! She worked in my office up until a few months ago when I changed jobs.

The other thing - he broke up with me because i'm nonmuslim,non arab and he wants a muslim girl for his future. This girl is not only white like me - she's Jewish! Go figure... Well he told me this, i'm sure to upset me, but then he told me the only reason he was going out with this girl was in defense mode since he heard that I too was dating other people. I haven't yet, so I don't know where he heard that from.

Anyway - this is the first time I've heard news like this so I'm giving myself a break - of course, its hard. Of course, I'm going to be upset and sad.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: malena78
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 7:05pm

Yes, of course you are going to be upset...so WHY on earth are you in contact with him so he can TELL you stuff like this???

Sheri

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Registered: 02-01-2005
In reply to: malena78
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 8:12pm

sounds all too familar...my guy dumped me after hearing that I would want my kids to learn about prayer one day and that I would want to celebrate christmas and easter as religious holidays as well as "fun" holidays and that I might want to baptize them. He knew I was Christian from the very beginning but suddenly decided I was a religious "zealot" or something ridiculous like that. I'm one of the most open-minded, accepting people I know. It turns out he was the one with the narrow mind. He totally dumped me after what I thought was a growing, loving and fun relationship- and for the religious reason, so he says. I told him that it was something we could work through as we build our relationship and get to know each other more. NOPE, he just heard a couple of things he didn't like and suddenly wasn't in love anymore. How messed up does it get?

I would suggest you send him a link to a mail-order bride company where can place his order for a woman that meets his criteria. It's sad when someone isn't even willing to step outside their little box.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
In reply to: malena78
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 8:14pm
I totally agree. This bunk about trying to be friends with someone who broke your heart is a joke- and I don't recommend it to anyone. It does nothing but stalls the healing process. A friendship can come a year or two or three down the line when you no longer harbor feelings or false hopes. NEVER right after a breakup.