Is he hopeless

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Registered: 01-22-2005
Is he hopeless
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 10:04pm
I have been dating a man for a year and just found out that the whole time he has also been sleeping with a married woman. I asked him if he loved me and he said yes but he also loves her and can't give me all of him. I feel like there is someting wrong with me because i never seen it, I mean its his best friends wife. Should I feel bad because I told him that I could stay with him? How Could I that was a complete smack in my face right?
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Registered: 03-02-2006
In reply to: ggam517
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 11:21pm
Do you want to have a relationship with someone who is not available? When someone loves someone, they DO NOT sleep with other people and have it somehow slip their mind not to tell you about it in the very beginning. He's told you that he won't give her up, do you really want that for yourself?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: ggam517
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:49am

He is hopeless. He's a player, a user, a liar, a cheat...and it's his best friend's wife, geez, so no loyality either but enough about him.

There is nothing wrong with you. You couldn't have seen it coming because you were in love, you trusted him and you weren't looking for it. You are NOT LESS THAN because of his actions, choices, decisions, behavior.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: ggam517
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 4:13am

Uh, I think he defines hopeless.

How much that must hurt for you, that he has been playing with you all along. Why would you tell him you could stay? Everything he has done speaks to the fact that you are not important to him. Why should you then tell him that he is more important to you than you are to yourself??

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: ggam517
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 3:33pm

Yes he's hopeless, but if you stay with him like you said you could, what does that say about you?

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