He just called, and is coming to see me.

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He just called, and is coming to see me.
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 10:26am

Ok, so I just got off the phone with my ex and he is coming to see me today. I'm so nervous. I don't know why he is coming to see me, but it sounded pretty good. I don't know what to think. I know I can't get my hopes up, but that is exactly what I'm doing. My God, I don't think I've ever been this nervous before. I just don't know what to do. I'm shaking like a leaf. I'm so excited, but scared at the same time, is that possible. HOLY CRAP! He's not coming until about 4:30 - 5:00 today, so I have all day to think and ponder over what might happen.

I just got back yesterday from Branson, and had a really nice trip, but all I could do was think about him. We've been broken up for about 3 months now, and I went on this little vacation with my family to get away from it all, but He was in my mind constantly, more so this weekend then he really has been since the breakup.

I'm just so nervous, and I'm not going to know what to do when I see him. Any help would be strongly needed right now.

~Amber~

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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 11:50am
It's perfectly normal to feel nervous, I probably would too. Did he give any clue why he was coming over? Have you seen him at all since you broke up? I know it won't do any good to tell you to stay calm and not overanalyze it. :) When he comes over, be open and just listen to what he has to say. It may seem like he is the one in control because he is the one who needed the break, but look at it like you are in control. You can listen to what he has to say and make up your own mind about how you want to react. If he does indeed want to get back together, then you can decide for yourself what you want. If he doesn't, if he just wanted to come over and "hang out" and there are no signs of reconciliation, just remember that that is fine, you will just continue moving on as you have been. You have been doing very well, I've been reading all your posts! :)
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 11:58am

He gave absolutely no clue as to why he coming to see me. He said he stopped by Monday and Tuesday, but I was in Branson, So I wasn't here.

I am completely overanalyzing it. I can't help it! I'm just so scared, nervous, excited, anxious all rolled into one.

I don't know what I'm going to do or say when I see him. I'm just gonna try and stay cool, calm, and collected.

If he does want to get back together, then I'm gonna fall apart. I know I'll start bawling like a baby. After this 3 months of being away from him, I know now more than ever that he is the one I want to be with, if he were to ever want to try again.

If he is just coming over to "hang out" I know I'm gonna be disappointed. But I'll get through it.

We haven't seen each other in 12 weeks, so you can imagine my anxiety.

Thanks for replying, it really helps to see what other people say about the situation.

~Amber~

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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 12:08pm
Well, it's good that you recognize that if he doesn't want to get back together, that yes you will be disappointed, but that you'll get through it. That's a healthy way of looking at it. Good luck! :)
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 2:15pm

Deep breaths!

Remember what you tell us:

"Hope for the best, expect the worst."

good luck!

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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 3:56pm

Thanks for that. I am trying to breath trust me. I now only have about 2 hours before I see him, and I'm scared to death.

I'm trying to not get my hopes up, but I can't help it. He said he's been trying to see me for 2 days now and that makes me think he wants to maybe get back together or else why would he try for now three days in a row to see me. He's really putting in some effort. I'm just so nervous. I'm literally trying to keep myself as busy as possible today at work, but there's not been much to do today. Everytime I think about him walking through that office door, I start shaking.

I don't think I've ever felt this much anxiety before. When He does get here, I'm probably going to just joke around with him and say something like, "Wait a second, don't I know you from somewhere? Oh yeah, I remember you now." That's just how we have always been with eachother, smartasses, yeah I know.

Thanks again, and I'll keep you posted on what happens.

~Amber~