He Just Disappeared!
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| Sun, 07-30-2006 - 9:33pm |
Hello all.
For the past 7 months, I've been dating a man who I have really started to get attached to. When we first met, he had been out of a 4 year relationship for 6 months and he admitted he was not over his ex. However, I (foolishly, I suppose), thought that things would get better over time. This month (July) was the month they broke up... so it's been a year now. He told me at the beginning of this month that he was having a really hard time still dealing with his relationship ending. He was very in love with this girl, going to marry her, and she broke his heart. The last time we hung out was at the beginning of this month and we *appeared* to have a really good time (no sex). I haven't heard from him since. Nothing. Not an email, phone call, text message... NOTHING. WTF? I thought at first he just needed a little space... so I made a concious decision not to contact him... BUT IT'S BEEN A MONTH SINCE WE LAST HAD CONTACT!!! What's worse, we were both on good terms last time we hung out. WHAT HAPPENED? We went out for 7 months!!! Any advice would be appreciated.

If not, he is probably trying to. He has probably been contacting her..He sounds very confused right now. I would stay away for awhile.Give him some space and breathing time . Sounds like you should just move on before he hurts you even more..You do deserve answers though. wouldnt hurt to call him or email him for an answer.
Thanks for your prompt reply. My gut says that he is not trying to get back together with his ex... it's been no contact for nearly a year... but of course, you never know. I just don't know what to think. Do you think I'll ever hear from him again? This is by far the strangest thing I've ever encoutered while dating someone for that period of time. I know it's not me... we left on good terms. Any other ideas?
It happens, unfortunately. Last fall, I had a guy I'd been involved with for a year and a half just disappear (he finally emailed 4 months later to apologize!).
I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sucks, plain and simple. But a guy who was right for you wouldn't do this to you, ya know?
Sheri
That's just awful. So you can totally relate then. What was his excuse? It was even longer than my 7 month stint! *BAFFLED*
I apparently said something in our last conversation that "hurt" him (I still to this day don't understand why--I thought what turned out to be our last conversation had been really good and positive, so I was even more baffled by his disappearance). But he acknowledged that it was wrong of him to disappear and he apologized. I appreciated the apology, but it was too little, too late.
Sheri
I don't believe this. A conversation causes one to up and disappear for 4 months? That's incredible. I almost wonder if that is what happened in my case. Maybe I said something that upset him in our conversation... we had a really "good" conversation as well the last time I saw him. I, personally, often find it refreshing to hear other peoples opinions on issues, even if they differ from my own... it's all about perspective. *shakes head*. P.S. What did you say after the apology??? Did you ever see him again?
Edited 7/31/2006 1:25 am ET by liberty101