He keeps breaking NC rule not me

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
He keeps breaking NC rule not me
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Thu, 12-22-2005 - 6:14am

Hi everyone,

After 3 months of on and off again emotions and madness Dec. 4 I said enough so initiated NC. 10 days later he called me to see if I was ok. I then told him not to call again. I sent him a text saying I was sorry I was rude but he needed to follow our rule we both agreed on. He text me back saying he understood and a few positive mentions. One week later he calls again this time from an airport phone (I ignored his last calls for hours as he kept calling from his cell repeatedly). I answered and he sound very sad and melancholy. He said I want to thank you. I said for what and he said loving me so much. I said I thank you for your love too and said bye and hung up.

I am finally getting to a place of peace. I am finally feeling happy again! I have no urge to call in fact it is my challenge NOT to call. Last time I did he was at some one night stand's house in her bathroom taking my call. It had become madness. NO MORE.

My New Year's gift to me is to find healthy and whole love..to find a man that treats me as I should be treated! I love myself and to nurture my healing and growth. I continue with my work..it's not been easy but well worth it.

Thanks everyone for the support and compassion I have recvd since Sept. 16th...

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2005
Thu, 12-22-2005 - 9:40am

Hi,

Lots of hugs to you - I am going to take some courage from you and also stick by NC today. I am still taking it day by day - everyday, I have to tell myself not to call/email/msn/etc. I am so happy to hear that someday, we can actually not have that urge at all.

Thanks again,
Ash

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Fri, 12-23-2005 - 6:46am

Ash, it took a few months to get to the place NOT to want to talk..it's SO LIBERATING to feel this again..but when he breaks the rule with his selfish calls, I get all jolted and the guilt sets in for me trying to set boundaries...

I wrote him a letter this AM and will mail it. I basically says DO NOT CALL ME....I thought if he sees it in black and white he will understand...