He left me!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2003
He left me!!!!
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Tue, 07-27-2004 - 12:59pm
After one year and a half of a terrific relationship, my bf moved out on me yesterday. Our lease is up this week anyways, but we had planned to live at my parents house for a few months to save money. He said he felt uncomfortable being with me now because I want a long term committment and he never wants one. He wants to just be in a relationship with nothing else. We are both 26. We talked on Sunday night and he could not give a any straight answer about "us". I thought he would pack and leave Monday since he was off half the day since he obviously didnt want to stay with me! I called him and he said he didn't move out..so i said take the rest of the day off if you can and be out by the time i get home. I just wanted him to say he didn't want that but he DID. I got home and he was gone, even deleted the computer programs we shared! He forgot something and came back for it. WOW. I asked him if we are friends and he said he has no problem being friends.. and then i asked him if he wants me in his life and he said he has no answer to that! I am tore up. I took my cats and moved some stuff home. I think what is making it so hard is that we were perfect together and now he just left. What do i do!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:32pm
"I want a long term committment and he never wants one."

I'm sorry but you weren't perfect together if you didn't want the same things together. I'm going through the same thing (commitment phobe bf and I broke up Fri). It's hard because you feel like you had this great relationship but if you really do want a long term committment and he doesn't then you weren't getting what you needed from the relationship.

It's probably too early to be friends also. I would suggest no contact for a while.

Good Luck!

Sheryl