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| Mon, 05-02-2005 - 11:19am |
My guy and I have broken up and gotten back together a few times now. Our last separation was for five weeks, with No Contact, and was the longest time we ever were apart.
Well, we have started to see each other - beginning last week and he was very clear as to his feelings and intentions about me, until.... Well, I posted about this before and basically he said he had this blind date with a friend. He said it was nothing, a "wing man" thing and although I flipped out quietly about it, and although he offered to cancel and I told him not to ... I calmed down eventually. My best friend told me not to worry because (1) he was being honest by telling me, (2) he promised this to his buddy a week before we had gotten together again, and (3) everything added up to him + me.
Well, Saturday night was the night of the date and I had my own plans. However, it was all I could think about and at about 1:30am, on my way home, I passed his house (he lives around the corner from me) and his car wasn't there. I held back from calling all night and just went to bed telling myself not to over react.
Yesterday afternoon he and I went out for lunch. He admitted it wasn't exactly a blind date. His buddy met this girl online and this was actually a third date with his buddy, his buddy's potential GF, and the potential's friend. Then he started poking fun, calling her his fiancee and kind of getting a rise out of me. He insisted there isn't anything going on, but they were all out until 3:30am.
I let it go, but its killing me now. Whatever we are doing began last week and I can't go any further knowing he is dating someone or trying to date someone. I have pretty much resolved to calling him later today and just confronting him. I should have said something on the phone last night but I didn't and then didn't feel like calling him back.
Last night we made plans for dinner this week. Last week he was totally in love with me and talking about marriage and children and now yesterday he admitts he lied that this (1) wasn't a blind date because it was double date #3, (2) he is poking fun at it, and (3) he seemed a little distant yesterday.
All I want is the truth and clarity. All I want is for him to answer my questions straightforwardly. I once heard that every joke you make is partly true. He joked about her being his fiancee - so he must be into her right??? Why go on 3 dates just to be "wing man" for his friend.
HELP.
