He loves me, he loves me not
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He loves me, he loves me not
| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 2:27pm |
Well it has been 3 weeks to the day that my ex left our place and said he didnt want to see me ever again. Now the first week we were apart we didnt talk at all. The second week he called me a couple of times and I wasnt strong enough to not accept his phone calls. Over this past weekend, we ran into each other out at a bar and one thing led to another and he came home with me. Then hung out with me for part of the day on sunday and left. He says he loves me, "we just cant live with each other", he says. Does this make sense? I feel stupid for having him come over this weekend, but I am kinda ok with it. He must miss me, but I am afraid he is missing me for the wrong reasons. He casually dropped by my house this morning as i was leaving for work and he complimented me on how good i looked. Then he calls me later this morning and tells me we are just on a break? Why do men seem so deadset in their decisions and then keep changing them as their mood permits? He still has not picked up his clothes or other belongings, instead tells me has enough to "get by" Meanwhile, I sit in limbo between the girl i was (moving on) and this other girl who has hope that he will come around. I dont want to get over him and have him come running back and i dont want to let him think that what we are doing now is normal either? I am still sad over the whatif's of our relationship and was doing well until i saw him.....two steps forward ten steps back...Where do i draw the line? Should I just let him go?

Jules-
I feel your pain. I had exactly the same thing happen to me this weekend. Its not easy, but I know for me, I've got to set boundaries. I just can't ride the emotional roller coaster anymore, its so draining. Also, he's got the best of all worlds with none of the commitment.
What happened last weekend, stays in last weekend. Don't feel badly about it, you were hurting, it relieved some of the pain, even for a short time. Now is the time where you and I need to take a stand. After all, we deserve better than to be jerked around like a rag doll. Also, in order to command respect from others, we need to respect ourselves.
Hope this helps. Now I just need to take my own advice. LOL
He can't commit to a decision -- he can't live with you, can't live without you. It's likely this back and forth will continue until he makes his mind up one way or another but you probably know deep down in your heart what that decision will be. You can ride this roller coaster all the way to the end or you can choose to get off early, on YOUR terms. That's a decision only you can make, when you feel capable. I know I personally would want someone who knew deep down in his heart without a doubt he wanted to be with me, but every relationship goes through phases. Only you know whether this is just a phase or if he really truly just isn't all that into you...
Steph
Good Luck and be STRONG
hi julesp
right now thats why his keep on calling you because maybe his thinking that you might start dating another guy and he doesnt want that...esp what you mention you look adorable for him today right...i think his getting confused and his scared to lust you. thats why also he mention "YOUR ONLY ON BREAK"...IT MEANS JUST HOLD ON, DONT DATE ANYBODY AND HIS MAKING SURE HE STILL HAVE YOU..GET THAT?
MY ADVISE TO YOU IF YOU LOVE THIS PERSON THIS IS THE RIGHT TIME TO ASK HIM BACK. DONT WASTE ANYTIME. I THINK HE LOVES YOU HE JUST TO SCARED TO ASK YOU BACK COZ YOU MIGHT REFUSED HIM.
WHY DONT YOU FIGHT FOR YOUR FEELING? IF YOU LOVE HIM GO FOR IT GIRL!!!